See, her daughter said something similar to my son, so, I want to now share my two things my son said too. I have the readiness to do so, thank u mjhawks and all members! I mentioned in one of my old posts under watercooler we been talking and he opened up about some things.. so Ill share them now... ( therapist hopefully get more out of him) I mentioned this in mjhawks post just now-
My son said " because your my parents" wait what? Same with his Encopresis, he said " doesnt always change because hes "lazy" or "busy"". But personally he knows it bothers us as well, so its another purposely done issue on that I think. When I asked" dont we deserve the same respect as others"? He didn't say anything. See, my son hasnt let "loose" on neighbors or the school yet( thank goodness) but has a few times looked like he was, slammed a door, wouldnt answer them etc, so he is slowly starting to get more "comfortable" with them, esp neighbors kids getting bossier etc..
So yesterday no tantrums, lil mouthy but overall it was a nice day for me ( all of us). The way things are worded to him as I mentioned a long time ago like if we say nicely" ok, its time to whatever" and he has a reminder one or two most, we bring in our permanent rule breaker punishment like no tv for example he will reply in threatening, sarcastic and ready to pour drinks or such manor" are you going to let me watch tv? We would reply " only if u.." then he would reply back with " are you going to let me watch tv? again until we say yes first and then supposedly he agrees to do whatever but doesnt always and gets mad over the whole deal. After he has us all go on and on, he gets mad at us and blames it on us. Yes I walk away and he follows and keeps going. Like he can be in a good mood, and one person turns the tv or plays the computer while hes doing something else, he will come in and get mad we turned it or played the computer, back in the other room we go, follows us in shortly and says" I was playing/watching that -an excuse to get mad" Manipulative? "I think so. He doesnt want to do what hes told ( his odd) or he mentally doesnt understand.. but Im leaning toward the odd.
Ok, well, things with daughter are smooth so far, we will see what therapist says about her too. Just the usual Asberger/sensory/anxiety issues. ( I know no definite but her last school said yes that is specialized in these areas plus some- but couldnt make it official into health records as they dont have that power but is in her old record with them. Neuro exam said probables for that except the sensory thing.. but reading what you all said to others and me, I know thats what it is, besides, strangers point this put to me at times on her because they have kids or family just like them. But nothing huge, shes still my easier child.
Next update will be after the "therapist" first visit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(" psychiatric" its all therapy)
My son said " because your my parents" wait what? Same with his Encopresis, he said " doesnt always change because hes "lazy" or "busy"". But personally he knows it bothers us as well, so its another purposely done issue on that I think. When I asked" dont we deserve the same respect as others"? He didn't say anything. See, my son hasnt let "loose" on neighbors or the school yet( thank goodness) but has a few times looked like he was, slammed a door, wouldnt answer them etc, so he is slowly starting to get more "comfortable" with them, esp neighbors kids getting bossier etc..
So yesterday no tantrums, lil mouthy but overall it was a nice day for me ( all of us). The way things are worded to him as I mentioned a long time ago like if we say nicely" ok, its time to whatever" and he has a reminder one or two most, we bring in our permanent rule breaker punishment like no tv for example he will reply in threatening, sarcastic and ready to pour drinks or such manor" are you going to let me watch tv? We would reply " only if u.." then he would reply back with " are you going to let me watch tv? again until we say yes first and then supposedly he agrees to do whatever but doesnt always and gets mad over the whole deal. After he has us all go on and on, he gets mad at us and blames it on us. Yes I walk away and he follows and keeps going. Like he can be in a good mood, and one person turns the tv or plays the computer while hes doing something else, he will come in and get mad we turned it or played the computer, back in the other room we go, follows us in shortly and says" I was playing/watching that -an excuse to get mad" Manipulative? "I think so. He doesnt want to do what hes told ( his odd) or he mentally doesnt understand.. but Im leaning toward the odd.
Ok, well, things with daughter are smooth so far, we will see what therapist says about her too. Just the usual Asberger/sensory/anxiety issues. ( I know no definite but her last school said yes that is specialized in these areas plus some- but couldnt make it official into health records as they dont have that power but is in her old record with them. Neuro exam said probables for that except the sensory thing.. but reading what you all said to others and me, I know thats what it is, besides, strangers point this put to me at times on her because they have kids or family just like them. But nothing huge, shes still my easier child.
Next update will be after the "therapist" first visit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(" psychiatric" its all therapy)