difficult child is 20 today. At midnight (time of birth) I texted him : "20 years ago, I was holding you in my arms for the first time and I knew I would love you forever. Happy birthday, may all your wishes come true" 13 hours later, I got a "thanks, mom" and LIKE AN IDIOT - I texted back " You're welcome, I hope you have a wonderful birthday and I am sad I am not with you. I wish things were different" and IGNORED and now, I am a mess. again. When will I learn? Why am I chasing him?