I checked some on that this evening and looked for a couple of other things, then went to a little more research. I'm hanging it up now for the evening- I'm spent.
To side track to a little vent-
Why is it that no matter what effects come from CSU actions or decisions, they are difficult child's fault for committing a crime. But whatever problems difficult child's crimes or CSU's decisions cause me are my fault? And then some of them try to claim difficult child's crimes are my fault.
It just burns me to no end that difficult child commits a crime, I get the restitution to pay, I lose jobs for his crimes, I have to do what CSU people say or I could get in trouble legally, I get blamed for difficult child "being driven to committing illegal activity" by half the people and get ordered to do the opposite of what those people say by the other half, CSU and Department of Juvenile Justice can sit and do nothing while things escalate out of control, can order things that cause more harm than good for both difficult child and me, yet "it's not their fault, it's difficult child's"....and it's "my problem, not theirs"....but if I made choices like that?? And I get upset over this and it could cause me to lose custody? You know, my therapist always told me that I could only control and be responsible for myself. I have yet to see that these people are doing anything but making sure I'm not in control of my life but am the one held responsible for what they do. Know what I mean?? If I can only be responsible for what I'm in control of and I can only control myself, not other people's decisions, why on earth am I supposedly responsible for and paying the price for difficult child and CSU? And then being told it's my problem?
Ya gotta love this system....NOT. I'm not the one that broke the law. I'm not the one who decides the punioshments or makes the rules as long as difficult child is in the legal system. So why is it I'm the one that has completely run out of 20+ years of resources and it's still not enough?
I somehow can forgive difficult child for things and don't even get as worried about the times I have to walk around eggshells for him because I can guage his moods to a certain extent, and I guess because he's my son. But the CSU people- either they are just people who get off on controlling parents (you know how some people just like to throw their weight around), or they are really trying to make sure things can't work with difficult child coming home.
Remember how the Department of Juvenile Justice director was so positive about difficult child getting released earliier, then the CM called me a few days later and didn't sound promising at all and said she had talked to PO? She told me that PO was not telling me the truth about everything and that he was being less than honest with me. I told her what he had told me and said that's all I had to go on. She wouldn't clarify more than just to say that the people in this county were would never agree to difficult child getting a direct release, they felt "he needed to be monitored due to his last charge because it was an offense against me". I don't buy that being the reason at all. Then, she said "let's just say 'a group home was discussed'". Ok, well it was PO (and difficult child) that talked me out of pushing for a group home. I just do not trust the CSU people at all. I can't help but wonder if they just led me and difficult child to believe he would be coming home to get him thru his time incarcerated, knowing that they would put him somewhere else afterwards. (Not the Department of Juvenile Justice people- but the county people.)