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Nana's are Beautiful
First I need to provide a bit of history.......
Nichole has a friend "D" she has known for years. D is a difficult child diagnosed with bipolar and I strongly suspect Borderline (BPD) due to a pretty severe abusive / neglectful home environment growing up. During her teen years D was as unstable as Nichole, in and out of psychiatric hospital ect, refused to take her medications...... At 17 she got pregnant and left home. She moved in the the baby's father who was abusive. She was a good Mom to the baby girl she adored, doted on her ect. She stabilized somewhat in the absence of her family despite the abusive boyfriend.
Then at about 9 months her daughter died of SIDS. Upon finding her infant daughter dead in the crib, D totally freaked. She wrapped her up and put her in the trash and tried to commit suicide....... (while she was pregnant her Mom consistantly told her she'd kill the baby because she was too incompetent to care for her properly) Coroner did an extensive investigation to rule out other possible causes especially due to D's unstable mental and emotional background. He found nothing. D had to be hospitalized several times following the death of her baby. All the while her family refused to believe the coroners report and constantly accused her of killing her child. And you can guess that messed with her head pretty bad.
Time passed. D met a guy she thought was truly wonderful. They got married. She got pregnant again. The baby boy has been thriving and D was on top of the world. Then the baby who was about 3 months old got sick. D panicked and took him to the ER. Baby was dehydrated so they went to put in an IV which is placed in the scalp of an infant that age. D totally lost it in the ER. No doubt terrified he was going to die like her daughter. Staff reacted badly (to put it nicely) making her state of mind even worse and she wound up admitted to the psychiatric unit. Baby's dad had to be called back from Iraq to take custody. I counseled her to get a good lawyer because DFS was going to remove the baby from the home if she was discharge and went back home. Good lawyer did get it cleared up after a rather long investigation which of course only drug back up all that horrid pain over the loss of her baby daughter.......which really hadn't been that long ago. Plus her husband's family went off the deep end and started trying to convince him she was "nuts" and going to kill their son like she did the baby girl (which she didn't) .......her own family has started in on her again..........her husband has left her and is messing with her head in a big way trying to cause her to dive off the deep end again so he can get custody.
Yes. It's a mess.
D is a good kid. From what I've seen she's an excellent Mom who adores her baby boy and adored her daughter. I know she didn't kill her daughter and I know she's never done anything to her son. I was the one who told her to take him to the ER that he was probably dehydrated and needed to be seen........because she'd come to me for help........and yeah all this junk started.
She is not stable at the moment by a long shot with good reason......she has too many people, the very people who should be helping her and supporting her, messing with her head and making it all so much worse. She's terrified of losing her son. And yet because nothing has ever worked in this girl's favor.........she's all but given up hopes of keeping him. Which has sent her spiraling.
So please, I ask with all my heart that we bring out the Power of the Board for D. Pray that she goes for help, starts taking her medications again. I'm so afraid we're going to lose her over this. This poor girl has never had anyone on her side except Nichole and me and her husband.......until his family turned him against her. Her suicide attempts are not for attention. It's been by the grace of God she was saved in the past.
Thank you.
Nichole has a friend "D" she has known for years. D is a difficult child diagnosed with bipolar and I strongly suspect Borderline (BPD) due to a pretty severe abusive / neglectful home environment growing up. During her teen years D was as unstable as Nichole, in and out of psychiatric hospital ect, refused to take her medications...... At 17 she got pregnant and left home. She moved in the the baby's father who was abusive. She was a good Mom to the baby girl she adored, doted on her ect. She stabilized somewhat in the absence of her family despite the abusive boyfriend.
Then at about 9 months her daughter died of SIDS. Upon finding her infant daughter dead in the crib, D totally freaked. She wrapped her up and put her in the trash and tried to commit suicide....... (while she was pregnant her Mom consistantly told her she'd kill the baby because she was too incompetent to care for her properly) Coroner did an extensive investigation to rule out other possible causes especially due to D's unstable mental and emotional background. He found nothing. D had to be hospitalized several times following the death of her baby. All the while her family refused to believe the coroners report and constantly accused her of killing her child. And you can guess that messed with her head pretty bad.
Time passed. D met a guy she thought was truly wonderful. They got married. She got pregnant again. The baby boy has been thriving and D was on top of the world. Then the baby who was about 3 months old got sick. D panicked and took him to the ER. Baby was dehydrated so they went to put in an IV which is placed in the scalp of an infant that age. D totally lost it in the ER. No doubt terrified he was going to die like her daughter. Staff reacted badly (to put it nicely) making her state of mind even worse and she wound up admitted to the psychiatric unit. Baby's dad had to be called back from Iraq to take custody. I counseled her to get a good lawyer because DFS was going to remove the baby from the home if she was discharge and went back home. Good lawyer did get it cleared up after a rather long investigation which of course only drug back up all that horrid pain over the loss of her baby daughter.......which really hadn't been that long ago. Plus her husband's family went off the deep end and started trying to convince him she was "nuts" and going to kill their son like she did the baby girl (which she didn't) .......her own family has started in on her again..........her husband has left her and is messing with her head in a big way trying to cause her to dive off the deep end again so he can get custody.
Yes. It's a mess.
D is a good kid. From what I've seen she's an excellent Mom who adores her baby boy and adored her daughter. I know she didn't kill her daughter and I know she's never done anything to her son. I was the one who told her to take him to the ER that he was probably dehydrated and needed to be seen........because she'd come to me for help........and yeah all this junk started.
She is not stable at the moment by a long shot with good reason......she has too many people, the very people who should be helping her and supporting her, messing with her head and making it all so much worse. She's terrified of losing her son. And yet because nothing has ever worked in this girl's favor.........she's all but given up hopes of keeping him. Which has sent her spiraling.
So please, I ask with all my heart that we bring out the Power of the Board for D. Pray that she goes for help, starts taking her medications again. I'm so afraid we're going to lose her over this. This poor girl has never had anyone on her side except Nichole and me and her husband.......until his family turned him against her. Her suicide attempts are not for attention. It's been by the grace of God she was saved in the past.
Thank you.