Susie sister in law is in over protective mode of his family, has been since it started. He's not quite sure what to do with himself, as there isn't much one can really do to "help". easy child and he did bring his little sister home with them yesterday to spend the day so his mom could have a break and let her hair down as needed.....and go visit his difficult child brother in ky perhaps for an explanation...something to make this nightmare not quite so horrible. I don't think that is possible, but I think it is a normal reaction.
This is a very painful confusing time for the family. sister in law's little bro was a difficult child that had some issues hinting at mental illness in the past, he got into some trouble, had some anger issues but nothing too serious. He met a ditzy but decent girl, found out he was going to be a father......and suddenly began turning his life around. For several years he was a good husband, doting and devoted loving dad to his two kids. His ex wife decided she couldn't handle him being military or in Afghanistan and filed for divorce while he was overseas. Yet it was a somewhat friendly divorce with her staying close to the family. He returned from Afghanistan on leave some time ago.......and the family noticed nearly immediately he had changed. He hooked up with the girlfriend nearly as soon as he returned. She is also a difficult child with her own rather serious issues. That part is quite involved as they'd dated years ago and it was just not a good combination.......2 difficult children whom dxes were actually making each other more severe....add in drugs......and it was awful. This time around it was just so much worse.
I've just about had it completely with CPS. This is another case of them totally dropping the ball.......AGAIN. It doesn't excuse whomever is guilty but they share that guilt. easy child's mother in law had concerns over the girlfriend's children welfare. The girlfriend's family had concerns over their welfare. There was evidence of physical abuse. The gfs sister contacted police and cps and the children were removed and placed into their aunts custody. (I'm guessing there were some issues with the biodad as well) For some idiotic reason, CPS returned the children to the girlfriend some time later, despite the concerns of
both families for the children's welfare. I guess I should make that
3 families to include the bio dads family of 2 of the kids. (difficult child fathered the eldest child)
As far as I'm concerned, there needs to be a way to hold cps responsible for their irresponsible behavior in returning children to potential serious situations.
This has got to stop. They are as much to blame in my opinion for what happened.
girlfriend is taking all the blame for the child's death at this point. Details of that are not known.
easy child's husband's parents are just beside themselves and torn apart. There is serious concern over difficult child, yet there is heart wrenching grief over the loss of the child whom they'd come to view as a grandchild. They're confused at difficult child's sudden drastic change in personality/behavior. He does not even look like himself if you know what I mean.... Their difficult child had made such amazing progress......even achieved easy child status for quite a lot of years, only to suddenly do a 180 back into gfgdom while also being drastically more severe than before. Drugs only made it that much more severe. But I don't think it was just "a drug related" crime........the girlfriend has some serious mental illness behaviors and has for years. Drugs just made it that much more volatile.
Charges are abuse of a corpse and tampering with evidence. For difficult child, he also has to face charges for going AWOL ect from the military. More will be added as the investigation continues.
I feel for all of the families involved. Such a horrible nightmare for all of them.