Wow. This is tough.
Thank you all for the words of encouragement and for sharing your experiences. I have found this to be very helpful in terms of ideas and providing strength.
My son came home last night after walking around town for 8 hours yesterday. It has turned cold here (20 degrees) and he said he had no where to go. I gave him two short term options: He should take his phone (that he left when he stormed out yesterday morning) and call around to find a place to stay, or he could spend the night at the house but I would drop him off somewhere in the morning when I left for work. He decided it was better to go somewhere else last night. As far as long term I reiterated two of the options I gave him yesterday morning: get help immediately or stay away from the house. He said he wanted to get help and that he would set something up today.
I really don't think he will follow up today to try to set something up. I think he was cold and miserable when he came by the house and was saying things in the hope that he would be able to come back - once he had his phone back he was okay to leave again and I think he probably spent the night with his pot smoking friend. By him having his phone at least I could verify that he had a place to stay. I assume he will be happy hanging around an apartment smoking pot, drinking beer, and playing video games.
In the meantime I will look for some sort of intensive out patient treatment program that I can suggest should he come around. I have put a call into his therapist to discuss. Until then, I can only wait.
Thank you all for the words of encouragement and for sharing your experiences. I have found this to be very helpful in terms of ideas and providing strength.
My son came home last night after walking around town for 8 hours yesterday. It has turned cold here (20 degrees) and he said he had no where to go. I gave him two short term options: He should take his phone (that he left when he stormed out yesterday morning) and call around to find a place to stay, or he could spend the night at the house but I would drop him off somewhere in the morning when I left for work. He decided it was better to go somewhere else last night. As far as long term I reiterated two of the options I gave him yesterday morning: get help immediately or stay away from the house. He said he wanted to get help and that he would set something up today.
I really don't think he will follow up today to try to set something up. I think he was cold and miserable when he came by the house and was saying things in the hope that he would be able to come back - once he had his phone back he was okay to leave again and I think he probably spent the night with his pot smoking friend. By him having his phone at least I could verify that he had a place to stay. I assume he will be happy hanging around an apartment smoking pot, drinking beer, and playing video games.
In the meantime I will look for some sort of intensive out patient treatment program that I can suggest should he come around. I have put a call into his therapist to discuss. Until then, I can only wait.