Shari
IsItFridayYet?
We belong to a camping club that camps together as a group several times a year. This weekend was the year's last campout.
Saturday night, after dinner, wee difficult child went to bed about 5:45. Everyone was putting up dishes from the pot-luck supper. At 6, Mrs T yelled out from her camper that Mr T was not breathing. Wee difficult child heard it, but was close enough to asleep that it didn't really sink in. He said "they sure are being loud" and then was asleep as I stepped out of the camper to help.
Mr T was 75-ish and had heart trouble. We started CPR, and the medics arrived and worked him there at the campground and pronounced him there after an hour. Besides our group, there was no one else around (tho an ER nurse was camped somewhere else in the campground and came to help).
I stayed out of the way, and wee difficult child stayed asleep, but husband and I were both concerned about his reaction to a death so close in proximity. He still gets stuck on my dad's death, and dad's been gone almost 3 years. He worries about his grandma's dying; heck, he worries about something happening to me.
We packed up camp Saturday night and pulled out very early Sunday to avoid rehasing the events. We think/hope we got away without him even being aware.
We will see these people again at the funeral, and in less than a month at our Christmas gathering. We're worried, among other things, that if difficult child finds out Mr T died "while camping", that it will be a new place to get stuck, and we camp often. We're also worried just about general setbacks if he's aware how close in proximity he was to it all (they were the camper next to ours).
Are we being overly concerned? Or is the concern valid? And if so, what things do we watch for to know he's aware? Or should we be up front and tell him and get him into his counselor to hopefully work him through it (cause unless we hide him from these people for the next 6 months, he's going to find out it happened and where).
Saturday night, after dinner, wee difficult child went to bed about 5:45. Everyone was putting up dishes from the pot-luck supper. At 6, Mrs T yelled out from her camper that Mr T was not breathing. Wee difficult child heard it, but was close enough to asleep that it didn't really sink in. He said "they sure are being loud" and then was asleep as I stepped out of the camper to help.
Mr T was 75-ish and had heart trouble. We started CPR, and the medics arrived and worked him there at the campground and pronounced him there after an hour. Besides our group, there was no one else around (tho an ER nurse was camped somewhere else in the campground and came to help).
I stayed out of the way, and wee difficult child stayed asleep, but husband and I were both concerned about his reaction to a death so close in proximity. He still gets stuck on my dad's death, and dad's been gone almost 3 years. He worries about his grandma's dying; heck, he worries about something happening to me.
We packed up camp Saturday night and pulled out very early Sunday to avoid rehasing the events. We think/hope we got away without him even being aware.
We will see these people again at the funeral, and in less than a month at our Christmas gathering. We're worried, among other things, that if difficult child finds out Mr T died "while camping", that it will be a new place to get stuck, and we camp often. We're also worried just about general setbacks if he's aware how close in proximity he was to it all (they were the camper next to ours).
Are we being overly concerned? Or is the concern valid? And if so, what things do we watch for to know he's aware? Or should we be up front and tell him and get him into his counselor to hopefully work him through it (cause unless we hide him from these people for the next 6 months, he's going to find out it happened and where).