ilovemykids
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I need to vent (it's my first time here). My heart is breaking for my 6 year old son. He was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD last year,....after trying to get one since he was 18months. I'm so frustrated that we keep getting doctors (I'm so sick of them) who dismiss me, like I don't know what I'm talking about or they say well as long as things in school are doing ok that's all I'm worried with. I want to punch them. We have 3 other small children (younger than him) and his behavior is creating complete chaos in our house and is affecting them too. Plus the medications he's on (Stratera) make him soooooo tired that he started having almost daily overnight accidents (he can't wake up now-hadn't had an accident since 2 1/2) and to keep himself from falling asleep he gets worse just to stimulate himself...on the weekends he started taking a 4 hour nap after being up only 3 hour....again he hasn't napped since 2 1/2. But once again the doctors won't change the medication....by the way I've seen 4 and none of them will!!!- seeing another one in a few weeks). I just want to scream!!! He is such a wonderful kid when he's not being defiant....I just wish we could help him better.
Plus, every year for the past three years all of his symptoms go into overdrive in the winter plus he intentially bumps things, bites anything he can but into his mouth (clothes, blankets etc.) and gets so much more angry. He's actually ruined the top corner of his winter coat from doing it so much...It's horrible...but do you think any doctor wants to pay attention to that...I'm pretty positive that he has Seasonal Affective Disorder (so is the school-his teachers are wonderful)...Of course he's now having to be restrained at school everyday because when he's angry he lashes out and gets physical or throws things (the other day he threw a chair towards his teacher because he didn't want to go to art)...Sad to say but sometimes his behavior embaresses me, and I can't do anything but make a joke about it later (my coping skill)-I know people who don't know my family think we're just crappy parents and that if we'd just put our foot down he'd be "good"....ha ha....We've tryed a zillion different parenting/disapline techniques and nothing has worked really well....we just started a new one (the school and I sat down for 2 hours and designed a program for both places so that he knows the rules are the same no matter where he goes and the consequences are too)-I have a early childhood education and child development background.
DOES ANYONE KNOW ANYTHING!
Plus, every year for the past three years all of his symptoms go into overdrive in the winter plus he intentially bumps things, bites anything he can but into his mouth (clothes, blankets etc.) and gets so much more angry. He's actually ruined the top corner of his winter coat from doing it so much...It's horrible...but do you think any doctor wants to pay attention to that...I'm pretty positive that he has Seasonal Affective Disorder (so is the school-his teachers are wonderful)...Of course he's now having to be restrained at school everyday because when he's angry he lashes out and gets physical or throws things (the other day he threw a chair towards his teacher because he didn't want to go to art)...Sad to say but sometimes his behavior embaresses me, and I can't do anything but make a joke about it later (my coping skill)-I know people who don't know my family think we're just crappy parents and that if we'd just put our foot down he'd be "good"....ha ha....We've tryed a zillion different parenting/disapline techniques and nothing has worked really well....we just started a new one (the school and I sat down for 2 hours and designed a program for both places so that he knows the rules are the same no matter where he goes and the consequences are too)-I have a early childhood education and child development background.
DOES ANYONE KNOW ANYTHING!