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Well, it's happened. To this point, SD (age 14)'s behaviour has been (in my humble opinion) somewhere on the line between rebellious teen and someone with more serious behavioural issues. But I think we may have just crossed that line.
wife let SD back on the Internet this week, under the condition that wife be allowed to check her accounts on occasion to make sure she's being safe. wife agreed, but made the mistake last night of leaving a Facebook chat between her and one of the guys in her class open when she logged out.
As fate would have it wife decided to check her accounts while at work this morning, and found the chat in which SD told the guy she "swallows."
SD called wife at work later today to ask if she could go to the park with (another) guy from class. wife didn't respond, because she wanted to get home to talk to SD about her Facebook chat.
When wife got home they chatted, SD was furious and angry about it (as usual) and went outside to sit on the front porch. Next time wife looked, SD was gone.
About 10 minutes later SD texted wife to say "gone to the park with (the guy)." wife told her to come home, because she didn't ask permission. SD agreed, and said she was on her way home.
When she wasn't home after 20 minutes, wife texted her again to tell her to speed it up or she'd be grounded. SD said she wasn't coming home. We couldn't tell from her text if that meant "ever" or "right now", so I'm still not sure if she's planning to come home tonight or not.
wife went in the car to find her, but that was 40 minutes ago and I haven't heard from either one. That's not a good sign, and I'm picturing wife driving the streets trying to find her, getting more and more upset and worried as she goes.
I've had this feeling for a few months now... that things were building and that SD was going to reach the "screw you, I don't care what you say or do" point. And now that she's reached it, I'm pretty sure there will be no going back for her.
But neither wife or I really know what we're supposed to do at this point. wife's planning to ground her, take away her cell phone and Internet priviledges, but I think that's only going to make her more angry and rebellious.
Any suggestions on what to do, assuming she comes home or we find her tonight?
UPDATE: wife just called and said that she hasn't been able to find SW, but that SW texted her to say "Don't worry I'm safe and I love you." SD had previously told wife if she ever ran away, that's what she was going to say. wife replied and then SD sent another text saying "Sorry, my phone's going to die soon, gotta go." Really not sure what we're supposed to do now. Call the police?
wife let SD back on the Internet this week, under the condition that wife be allowed to check her accounts on occasion to make sure she's being safe. wife agreed, but made the mistake last night of leaving a Facebook chat between her and one of the guys in her class open when she logged out.
As fate would have it wife decided to check her accounts while at work this morning, and found the chat in which SD told the guy she "swallows."
SD called wife at work later today to ask if she could go to the park with (another) guy from class. wife didn't respond, because she wanted to get home to talk to SD about her Facebook chat.
When wife got home they chatted, SD was furious and angry about it (as usual) and went outside to sit on the front porch. Next time wife looked, SD was gone.
About 10 minutes later SD texted wife to say "gone to the park with (the guy)." wife told her to come home, because she didn't ask permission. SD agreed, and said she was on her way home.
When she wasn't home after 20 minutes, wife texted her again to tell her to speed it up or she'd be grounded. SD said she wasn't coming home. We couldn't tell from her text if that meant "ever" or "right now", so I'm still not sure if she's planning to come home tonight or not.
wife went in the car to find her, but that was 40 minutes ago and I haven't heard from either one. That's not a good sign, and I'm picturing wife driving the streets trying to find her, getting more and more upset and worried as she goes.
I've had this feeling for a few months now... that things were building and that SD was going to reach the "screw you, I don't care what you say or do" point. And now that she's reached it, I'm pretty sure there will be no going back for her.
But neither wife or I really know what we're supposed to do at this point. wife's planning to ground her, take away her cell phone and Internet priviledges, but I think that's only going to make her more angry and rebellious.
Any suggestions on what to do, assuming she comes home or we find her tonight?
UPDATE: wife just called and said that she hasn't been able to find SW, but that SW texted her to say "Don't worry I'm safe and I love you." SD had previously told wife if she ever ran away, that's what she was going to say. wife replied and then SD sent another text saying "Sorry, my phone's going to die soon, gotta go." Really not sure what we're supposed to do now. Call the police?
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