lovemysons
Well-Known Member
I guess this is somewhat of a vent regarding my mother...
It started the other night (or should I say Years ago) when my mother and I were discussing the fact my cousin married a much older man of 70 when she was 30 yrs old.
My mom was saying that some people might think she was a gold digger unless they were to know her. I interjected and said that plus the fact that my cousin has always had a safety net and provisions that will be left to her from my Aunt and Uncle.
Oh my! Boy did this open up a can of worms!!! My mother got very defensive.
Long story short we got into it over money. See...she does not "plan" on leaving me any money. Nor does she see herself as needing to ever "help family". That's not how she thinks...In fact she said that my grandchildren Her great-grandchildren have all the provision they need from husband and I and the other grandparents.
My mom is 64 going on 21. She just recently had her "lips done" and before that it was botox around her mouth (after great grandson told her she had "an old person's mouth lol) and her eyelids tatooted.
This is my mother! She also wants to buy a convertabile as her SUV is not "playful and fun enough".
My mother raised me alone (did not meet my dad until I was 17). She was very career-oriented. She also loved and LOVES her friends...almost if not more than family, sigh. She says when she walks into the room her friends are always glad to see her but when she gets around family it is like "Oh, there's GGMA" again. Yes, she goes by GGMA not Grandma, lol.
Im just so tired of listening to the newest thing she's bought for herself, treatment she's had done on herself, what she wants next etc...without much regard for family needs.
Her philiosophy is basically "Every man for himself".
Am I wrong...Is she wrong? husband and I just think that family should help family and that leaving something for generations to come is a loving gracious thing to do. My mom thinks she should spend it all since it is HERS.
In fact, she even laughs about "SKIing"...stands for "Spending Kid's Inheritance".
I don't think it's funny.
What do you think?
LMS
It started the other night (or should I say Years ago) when my mother and I were discussing the fact my cousin married a much older man of 70 when she was 30 yrs old.
My mom was saying that some people might think she was a gold digger unless they were to know her. I interjected and said that plus the fact that my cousin has always had a safety net and provisions that will be left to her from my Aunt and Uncle.
Oh my! Boy did this open up a can of worms!!! My mother got very defensive.
Long story short we got into it over money. See...she does not "plan" on leaving me any money. Nor does she see herself as needing to ever "help family". That's not how she thinks...In fact she said that my grandchildren Her great-grandchildren have all the provision they need from husband and I and the other grandparents.
My mom is 64 going on 21. She just recently had her "lips done" and before that it was botox around her mouth (after great grandson told her she had "an old person's mouth lol) and her eyelids tatooted.
This is my mother! She also wants to buy a convertabile as her SUV is not "playful and fun enough".
My mother raised me alone (did not meet my dad until I was 17). She was very career-oriented. She also loved and LOVES her friends...almost if not more than family, sigh. She says when she walks into the room her friends are always glad to see her but when she gets around family it is like "Oh, there's GGMA" again. Yes, she goes by GGMA not Grandma, lol.
Im just so tired of listening to the newest thing she's bought for herself, treatment she's had done on herself, what she wants next etc...without much regard for family needs.
Her philiosophy is basically "Every man for himself".
Am I wrong...Is she wrong? husband and I just think that family should help family and that leaving something for generations to come is a loving gracious thing to do. My mom thinks she should spend it all since it is HERS.
In fact, she even laughs about "SKIing"...stands for "Spending Kid's Inheritance".
I don't think it's funny.
What do you think?
LMS