Hi
My name is Dee. I'm a mom to an only child. She will be 17 in 27 days. She has had anxiety and depression since about age 10. Shes been medicated and in treatment for 5 years. Shes now off medications as they were not helping at all.
Shes been hospitalized twice for overdose. She was committed last year for a week then had to go to a special hospital day program for two months. She is now in a special school program to help her with DBT and therapy as well as school work.
She shows no effort. No spark. She spends all her waking time at home on her phone. I'm not allowed to say anything because it's "distraction therapy" and any time I bring up responsibility she has an anxiety attack and needs more distraction therapy.
We created a monster. My husband is her step dad. She has chosen to have nothing to do with her birth dad as she says he is mean and manipulative. He is. But she has very thin skin.
She sleeps 90% of the time she is home. Has no life. Her friends have all but given up on her. She has no goals or desires. She says she doesn't want to be alive. I surrender to the reality that I can't force her to be alive. But how do I enforce some kind of rules here without pushing her into dramatics or another suicide attempt?
She does not respect us. At all. And she is very emotionally manipulative. Bright and knows the therapeutic lingo and uses it to her advantage to garner sympathy etc.
Any tips you all have would be greatly appreciated. I'm nearing the end of my abilities to persevere here. She just has no sense of pride in herself or any drive to be more than she currently is.
Cheers,
Dee
My name is Dee. I'm a mom to an only child. She will be 17 in 27 days. She has had anxiety and depression since about age 10. Shes been medicated and in treatment for 5 years. Shes now off medications as they were not helping at all.
Shes been hospitalized twice for overdose. She was committed last year for a week then had to go to a special hospital day program for two months. She is now in a special school program to help her with DBT and therapy as well as school work.
She shows no effort. No spark. She spends all her waking time at home on her phone. I'm not allowed to say anything because it's "distraction therapy" and any time I bring up responsibility she has an anxiety attack and needs more distraction therapy.
We created a monster. My husband is her step dad. She has chosen to have nothing to do with her birth dad as she says he is mean and manipulative. He is. But she has very thin skin.
She sleeps 90% of the time she is home. Has no life. Her friends have all but given up on her. She has no goals or desires. She says she doesn't want to be alive. I surrender to the reality that I can't force her to be alive. But how do I enforce some kind of rules here without pushing her into dramatics or another suicide attempt?
She does not respect us. At all. And she is very emotionally manipulative. Bright and knows the therapeutic lingo and uses it to her advantage to garner sympathy etc.
Any tips you all have would be greatly appreciated. I'm nearing the end of my abilities to persevere here. She just has no sense of pride in herself or any drive to be more than she currently is.
Cheers,
Dee