DammitJanet
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Im so irritated myself...but it is with Billy, my oldest. To put it mildly, he does next to nothing.
He goes to work part-time at his job at Radio Shack. He works around 20 hours a week...average. He sometimes helps by taking Mandy to school or work. Maybe once a week...rarely twice a week. On the rare occasion he might pick something up for me on his way home from work if I call him. That is rare. Very rare.
We had been asking him to give us $100 a month to "help" with the power bill since he has an above average amount of electronics in his room. He did this for about 5 months with no problem. The last two months, he has not been able to pay. The first time, we didnt say anything. It was a bad month, he had a major doctor bill, short hours, blah blah blah.
This last month, I only asked for 50 bucks because the power bill was lower. He still hasnt given me the money and we are halfway through this month.
He hasnt cleaned his bathroom in probably a year or more. It is disgusting. His bedroom looks like an episode of Hoarders. Not that my house is any better but still. He wont help in the kitchen either. Tony asked him to wash up the dishes one day and he got an attitude. Told him it was all from stuff WE did, that he didnt cook or make stuff or even eat much here. Well that may be somewhat true but he does live here and he doesnt pay rent and he does eat here and he does cook...even if he doesnt want to admit it because I see stuff disappearing and wrappers appearing.
I find bowls in the sink, dishes soaking in cold, greasy water.
I am getting fed up. I told Tony it may well be time we need to think about nudging him out of the nest. He balks. He doesnt think he can do it. I try to point out he wouldnt put up with this koi from any of the others. Why should we from Billy? He's special. Blah. He cant make it on what he earns. Well that may be true but what incentive does he have to do better if he has it made here? I realize he seems like he is trying to find a better job but I dont know how much of a sincere attempt that really is...ya know? I think he allows his job to take advantage of him and not go get another part time job at least. Maybe after he gets his taxes back and gets a better car he can look for a better job farther from home.
I would force him into moving in with Cory but they cant get internet there and that is a deal breaker with Billy. He has to have internet.
I just dont know what to do. Im forced to clean everything up after all of us because he wont. Tony isnt here. It isnt fair to expect Tony to do it all when he is out of town working darned hard all week.
He goes to work part-time at his job at Radio Shack. He works around 20 hours a week...average. He sometimes helps by taking Mandy to school or work. Maybe once a week...rarely twice a week. On the rare occasion he might pick something up for me on his way home from work if I call him. That is rare. Very rare.
We had been asking him to give us $100 a month to "help" with the power bill since he has an above average amount of electronics in his room. He did this for about 5 months with no problem. The last two months, he has not been able to pay. The first time, we didnt say anything. It was a bad month, he had a major doctor bill, short hours, blah blah blah.
This last month, I only asked for 50 bucks because the power bill was lower. He still hasnt given me the money and we are halfway through this month.
He hasnt cleaned his bathroom in probably a year or more. It is disgusting. His bedroom looks like an episode of Hoarders. Not that my house is any better but still. He wont help in the kitchen either. Tony asked him to wash up the dishes one day and he got an attitude. Told him it was all from stuff WE did, that he didnt cook or make stuff or even eat much here. Well that may be somewhat true but he does live here and he doesnt pay rent and he does eat here and he does cook...even if he doesnt want to admit it because I see stuff disappearing and wrappers appearing.
I find bowls in the sink, dishes soaking in cold, greasy water.
I am getting fed up. I told Tony it may well be time we need to think about nudging him out of the nest. He balks. He doesnt think he can do it. I try to point out he wouldnt put up with this koi from any of the others. Why should we from Billy? He's special. Blah. He cant make it on what he earns. Well that may be true but what incentive does he have to do better if he has it made here? I realize he seems like he is trying to find a better job but I dont know how much of a sincere attempt that really is...ya know? I think he allows his job to take advantage of him and not go get another part time job at least. Maybe after he gets his taxes back and gets a better car he can look for a better job farther from home.
I would force him into moving in with Cory but they cant get internet there and that is a deal breaker with Billy. He has to have internet.
I just dont know what to do. Im forced to clean everything up after all of us because he wont. Tony isnt here. It isnt fair to expect Tony to do it all when he is out of town working darned hard all week.