My wonderful daughter, whom by the way just finished kindergarted excelling above grade level in everything..has been diagnosed with ODD and Anxiety= they bring out symptoms of ADHD(hyperactivity)... I have known things have been "different" since she was born. She wasn't consolable etc. Fast forward. It has been a week since the official diagnosis. Out of 9 days or so we have had 2 bad days. I know it is because we are able to look at each situation differently that the good days are out numbering the bad. The last 4.5yrs have taken a toll on my marriage. I told him I felt like he was giving up on her and leaving me responsible for it all. So, I printed off the information I found on here for ODD and gave it to him and he said it was nice to have some information to read..and that I should just get the books we need and he will read them. I got the books today, The Explosive Child and 10 days to a less Explosive Child..I am on chapter 3 in The Explosive Child and whew! I am NOT alone. I am so excited about all I have read so far that I decided to share it with husband. MISTAKE! He went off about how come we are only hearing about his now? It's probably because the law isn't allowing us to discipline our children anymore. I said, whoa. Since when does beating the children or the dogs(I threw that in there because that has always been his first reaction when the dogs misbehave-it takes me stepping in to show him how it should be done lol) prove anything? We went back and forth and he basically said, "I guess we just grew up differently." I have spanked. Did it solve anything? NO. I was spanked as a kid and all it did was make me more mad. And spanking has done nothing for our daughter. Now he has gone to bed. I didn't say anything else for fear of my own anger coming out. How are we supposed to help our lil girl if he is not open minded and willing to help? We have another lil girl at home too..I am not sure I can handle both our daughter that needs our help and the lil one that needs continued guidance by myself. Sorry for the long vent. Thank you for "listening."