I appreciate your thoughts. That's kinda where I'm at, and then, at times, I feel guilty, like I'm giving up on her.
But I can't make much headway if mom's just gonna beleive every flippin' story the child fabricates, and no, there is NO backup from mom (she's still angry at me for "making stuff up", and very little from dad). I know this girl is lying thru her teeth, and it just gets my goat to smile at her and pretend its just fine with me. 'Cause its not.
If mom had just dealt with daughter about all this when daughter asked to go with us, I'd have never been the wiser to any of it, and frankly, I think I'd have prefered that at this point. She would be going camping with us, I wouldn't know her "I'm so sick" story, and all would be well in my world.
As it is, I now know she's continued this lie and I have to put up with her this weekend, and honestly, I don't want to be around her.
I expect she will be perfectly pleasant to me this weekend, but I'm not sure I have the umph to return the favor.
I guess the bigger natural consequence of all this is that this girl wants to live with us instead of her mom, and I'll be you-know-what-ed if she's gonna voluntarily move into my house acting like that. I suppose someone ought to let her know that.