I am sorry to say I have suffered so much in the past 10 years trying to deal with my difficult child's behavior and oppositionality. I lived in complete despair and still do sometimes. I wish I would have known more about sensory integration like weighted vests, blankets and keeping his backpack on after school. More about quiet music at night and the huge exercise ball to bounce on for comfort. I wish I would have known about behavior therapy and that they will come to your house and watch the kid in action and then teach you how to manage the behavior. I wish I would have known that there are social service programs available that could have connected me to experts. (We got that help later on when things were critical.) I wish I would have worked harder to find a counselor that could have diagnosed him as ODD and not just ADHD. The counselors we saw did not take me seriously when I tried to tell them there is something really wrong with him. I wish my son would have fallen in love with any church and given himself to God to hold him together when he felt so alone and hopeless.