JKF
Well-Known Member
difficult child is still stuck in PA. We are trying to get him on a bus to NJ through the relocation program at the shelter but a couple of things are preventing that. The first is that apparently he has an active bench warrant in PA for "theft". I'm not sure if this stems from the original arrest (the only arrest I'm aware of) but I thought those charges were dismissed. Perhaps I'm wrong though. Maybe they just released him and he never went back to court? I really don't know and won't be able to find out until tomorrow. The second thing holding him back is that he has no ID.
Anyway he just called and I can tell he's in one of his moods. He said "when am I getting out of here? I'm really starting to hate PA now". I told him we're all working on it and that he needs to be patient. He started getting a nasty attitude and I told him that he got himself into this mess and he should have had a plan instead of just taking off from the group home. He argued back that he did have a plan and it didn't work. Again, he takes no responsibility. It's everyone else's fault and he did nothing wrong. Uggggh! Makes me so damn angry!!!!
It's painfully obvious to everyone but difficult child that he will never be happy no matter WHERE he is! The "high" of living somewhere new will last only a short amount of time and then he looks for his next great escape. And he refuses to take medications! OMG!!
I'm trying to detach. I am! I'm actually proud of myself because I managed to have a nice Thanksgiving but I can feel that something bad is brewing. I can just tell by his surly attitude and his sense of entitlement. Everyone is trying to help him out of a situation that HE got himself into but its not good enough/quick enough/etc for him. I'm tired now. I hate this.
Anyway he just called and I can tell he's in one of his moods. He said "when am I getting out of here? I'm really starting to hate PA now". I told him we're all working on it and that he needs to be patient. He started getting a nasty attitude and I told him that he got himself into this mess and he should have had a plan instead of just taking off from the group home. He argued back that he did have a plan and it didn't work. Again, he takes no responsibility. It's everyone else's fault and he did nothing wrong. Uggggh! Makes me so damn angry!!!!
It's painfully obvious to everyone but difficult child that he will never be happy no matter WHERE he is! The "high" of living somewhere new will last only a short amount of time and then he looks for his next great escape. And he refuses to take medications! OMG!!
I'm trying to detach. I am! I'm actually proud of myself because I managed to have a nice Thanksgiving but I can feel that something bad is brewing. I can just tell by his surly attitude and his sense of entitlement. Everyone is trying to help him out of a situation that HE got himself into but its not good enough/quick enough/etc for him. I'm tired now. I hate this.