Sometime you have to accept outside help

[Rotsne]

A couple was just sentenced to 5 months in jail here in Denmark.

They had what they believed a daughter suffering from ADHD and tried to control her in their home.

They removed all her belongings. It didn't work. They beat her. They locked her in a dog cage. They gave her work sheets in their garden in the middle of the night - even during the winter without proper clothes.

Still it didn't work.

While they were both professionals (The wife a nurse and and the husband a child care worker employed working with at-risk teens) they overlooked that they broke the law. Corporal punishment is illegal even if it is the parents who are doing it. It has been so for more than 10 years.

So they ended up in prison and the daughter were removed a year ago before the investigation and the trial. They were allowed to keep a 4 year old son until now because placing a child outside the home is expensive and they tax-payers are paying more than 50 percent in tax and 25% of each penny spent in shops. After several appeals he was removed yesterday.

None understand why they decided to treat her themselves because we have a rather good standard inside our DSS and after being removed from the home the girl was examinated. She is NOT suffering from ADHD according to specialists.

Awful and wierd case.

 

[tiredmommy]

How heartbreaking for those children. I hope that the girl receives the help she will need to heal and have a decent life ahead of her. Those aren't parents... they are monsters.

 

[klmno]

That's just a shame- on several levels- and that's all I can say. I'm not surprised, though. People would drop their jaws if they knew some of the ridiculous choices some members of my family and "friends" of the family have made and these are preofessional people- school administrator, pediatrician, psychologist,.......

 

[Estherfromjerusalem]

I don't want to cause trouble here on the board, but this situation sounds very much like what we here call "doing a complete Riley" or something like that. Removing all possessions, taking the door away, etc. etc. Something I have never understood and never even dreamed of trying with my difficult child. I always put it down to my own personal lack of strength of character that I never even contemplated doing that, and always admired the parents who could do it. I suppose there must be a very thin dividing line between that and going over the limits.

But then on the other hand -- I don't want to judge parents who are obviously desperate. I know that more than once I lost my temper with my difficult child when he was smaller, and I remember distinctly kicking him -- hard -- once when I completely went berserk with him.

Just my two cents worth.

Love, Esther

 

[tiredmommy]

Esther,
This is more than a Full Riley it was systematic abuse. To quote Rotsne:

They beat her. They locked her in a dog cage. They gave her work sheets in their garden in the middle of the night - even during the winter without proper clothes.

A Full Riley will generally cause no harm (though it will most definitely upset the child). And as for kicking difficult child... we all know that you love him. One act (or even a few) doesn't negate that.

 

[TerryJ2]

OMG!!! Corporal, schmorporal. People like that don't care if they're breaking the law. Something snapped.
I am so sorry for that girl. At least now I hope she will get the help she needs.