scaredparent5304
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I have a 21 year old son that was sexually abused from the ages of 7-14. My husband and I found out about this when my son was 17. At that time we prosecuted the creep that did this and of course it was a close friend of the family! The molester got 2 years in prison and is out now. My son has been thru the ringer with emotions ever since this all became public. He goes from severe depression to extreme rage at any moments time. I have had him in with counselors, therapists and doctors. Nothing seems to help because he will not allow it to work. He has been on so many anti depressants I cant even tell you. All would not work and would cause problems. Counseling is not going good. I cannot afford to take him to a psychologist (no insurance) which is where he really needs to go. We sued the creep that did this to him but all we have is a judgement for him to pay my son and apparently he doesnt have any money anymore or anything to sell off. My son has had a alcohol and marijuana problem for a few years now. He went to jail for partying too much in college. That really seemed to help him for a while, but now back to the old ways again. He is currently in college full time and working full time which I thought would really keep him to busy to party but he is finding time to do that.
I guess the next step for me would be to kick him out of the house and make him grow up, but how do I know that is the right thing to do with what he has been thru with his past? His father and I both have ALOT of guilt about the abuse and with my son being unstable I just dont know how to go about kicking him out. Any suggestions? Its so much easier said than done. Its a sad situation that I am making worse with my guilt. Someone PLEASE HELP!! I just found out he was smoking marijuana again and its killing me!
I guess the next step for me would be to kick him out of the house and make him grow up, but how do I know that is the right thing to do with what he has been thru with his past? His father and I both have ALOT of guilt about the abuse and with my son being unstable I just dont know how to go about kicking him out. Any suggestions? Its so much easier said than done. Its a sad situation that I am making worse with my guilt. Someone PLEASE HELP!! I just found out he was smoking marijuana again and its killing me!