My cousin's husband's funeral is tomorrow. I have only met him a few times because they have had an extremely stormy marriage. He has been in prison several times, both alcohol and drug related. My mother said he is a very giving and polite person when he is sober. He has helped family and friends work on their homes and cars free. Drugs and alcohol made him belligerent and he was in trouble a lot. He cleaned up about 4 years ago and has had serious health problems. No pension because he couldn't hold a job, no insurance because he couldn't pass (or afford) the medical exams. When I met him about 2 years ago he was about 44 yo and I didn't recognize him he had aged so much. It is such a waste of a life and these difficult children are not realizing the damage they are already doing to their young bodies.