Sweetpea is home.....

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by timer lady, Jan 16, 2010.

  1. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    terrified she'll "screw up" AND has unpacked all her belongings & rearranged her bedroom.

    I let kt know that I'm not doing the constant watch - she knows the rules & will have to police herself. I will remind her of her obligations, her medications & her boundaries.

    I also let her know that I would not be walking about on pins & needles...if she chooses to run she chooses to run. I will call the police as that is my obligation as a parent.

    I plan on enjoying the good times with kt - encourage her with her art & playing her guitar. To make girl friends & enjoy that type of friendship.

    I don't know what else as we're working out the "plan" if you will.

  2. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    Welcome home kt! Linda - what a great attitude you have about this. Enjoy the good times!
  3. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    That sounds like about all you can do at this point.
    You are a wonderful Mom. Better than most.

    Welcome Home KT
  4. slsh

    slsh member since 1999

    Welcome home, KT! I hope that it goes smoothly, Linda, and that she gets to appreciate the fabulous woman that is her mother! ;)
  5. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    That sounds great to me and that is the only plan I have for when my son comes home. I figure if I'm walking around on eggshells or constantly hovering over him, he's more likely to mess up and honestly, I have to keep myself detached to a certain extent at this point. But this approach also keeps the responsibility on the difficult children' shoulders, not ours, in my humble opinion.

    Good luck to you and kt both. Maybe reminding her that you know she can do it or at least come to you to discuss things if she's struggling, will help her feel secure and confident. My son told me it is harder for him when he thinks I don't believe he can stay out of trouble.

    Keep us posted!
  6. whatamess

    whatamess New Member

    I hope all the best for the both of you.
  7. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Wishing you and ktbug all the best.
  8. LittleDudesMom

    LittleDudesMom Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Welcome home kt!

    Linda, you know you both are in my thoughts.

  9. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Welcome home ktbug!

    Really hope the transition goes smoothly. Keeping up the prayers.
  10. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Welcome home kt!
    Linda, sounds like you have a wonderful plan. Lots of hugs!
  11. 1905

    1905 Well-Known Member

    Hoping all goes well, and remember, if she has a slip, it doesn't mean relapse. We're all human. I hope you are enjoying every moment.-Alyssa
  12. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    I'm working on not getting my hopes up or becoming so cynical that there is no hope for ms. kt.

    I'm at the point where I have this huge bubble around me protecting my personal & emotional self. That's a must have ~ it's been explained to kt & while hurt at first, she's okay with that. She's also been told that at 15 it's no longer an immediate forgive & forget. Now it will take time to absorb what has happened & to rebuild trust.

    We made it through our first weekend together. It was a mish mash of learning to live together. kt learning the rules of the house & the like.

    Thanks for all the supports & wishes for a good outcome.