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Dadontheedge
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I believe I can prove beyond all doubt that ODD is a stand-alone condition and I have, living in my home, the only child that need be examined to prove my hypothesis...
I am very new to the whole online parent support thing, but have been dealing with child behavioral "difficulties" for: 7 yrs, 2 months, and 21 days. Ever since my difficult child was born. We started to feel like there may be something 'out of the ordinary' with our son from the get go, but being new parents, we thought it was just the way he was and all kids are differant.
Without going into too much detail about our daily struggles, I'll give a brief run-down of the history. It started when he was an infant, he had ZERO patience, he wouldn't breast-feed... Flat refused! The doctors told us: "some kids just don't breast-feed." So my wife did the pump and freeze routine. He seemed ok with that.
As he became a toddler, our version of "normal" became daily "Nuclear Meltdowns" over everything from a toy not doing what he wanted to not getting a paice of candy from the store to not being able to spend the rest of his natural life in the McDonald's Play Place. For a mor detailed description see: "Google Search: Oppositional Defiant Disorder Definition" and it's been that way ever since...
The problems progressed into potty training. After the initial struggle, he was doing great for a few months straight so we stopped buying pull-ups. He said to us one day that: "he wanted pull-ups again", we said "you're a big boy, you don't need them", as expected he threw a fit, but got over it. He was 2 at the time. A few days later when he asked again, we gave the same answer. It was 4 days later and he was running around the house screaming in pain because he hadn't pooped in "4 DAYS!" OMG! We had been in touch with a developmental councelor whos said that: "we needed to be consistent and he would eventually realize that it is easier to comply." YEAH RIGHT! Not with this kid! Long story short: It took some creative meal planning with natural laxatives, prescription suppositories, and a year of beating our heads against the wall. He finally gave in and started using the potty full-time, just before our daughter was born.
Things were back to "normal" until he started school. It took the first half a year to get him to not throw an "Epic Tantrum" when someone else got to be the head of the line and hold the teacher's hand. We figured it was just because the whole thing was new and exciting.
Then it was being sent to the office for punching and kicking other kids that made it harder than "usual" on us. The following school year was no exception. It was more of the same, not matter how mant time we explain it he flat does not want to do ANYTHING unless it's his idea. Including the utterly simple common sense things. He would rather spend the entire day staring at the door than ask one of us to open the top latch so he can go outside and play. He expects us to snap to and obey his every whim at a grunt and finger pointing. And when he doesn't want to do something, it takes shear force to get him to do it, even then you may get him to where you want him but getting him to physically do anything is completely exhausting!
After our daughter started expressing herself more and our difficult child started the second grade, we noticed that the other kids are more like what we thought normal was supposed to be as is our daughter. It's sad that it took this long for us to realized that counting the days and weeks until his 18th birthday was not how parenting was supposed to be.
My wife and I spoke to a family councelor who suggested that our problems with the difficult child sounded like ODD. I must have visited 100 diferant websites, and all of the definitions fit to a tee. I mean 10 out of 10 symptoms/traits hit on the nose. His teachers agree that he does not exibit the signs of ADD or ADHD. We are in the process of getting him assesed and diagnosed and I am all but 100% sure that they will say it's ODD.
If anyone has any tips we would really appreciate it...
I am very new to the whole online parent support thing, but have been dealing with child behavioral "difficulties" for: 7 yrs, 2 months, and 21 days. Ever since my difficult child was born. We started to feel like there may be something 'out of the ordinary' with our son from the get go, but being new parents, we thought it was just the way he was and all kids are differant.
Without going into too much detail about our daily struggles, I'll give a brief run-down of the history. It started when he was an infant, he had ZERO patience, he wouldn't breast-feed... Flat refused! The doctors told us: "some kids just don't breast-feed." So my wife did the pump and freeze routine. He seemed ok with that.
As he became a toddler, our version of "normal" became daily "Nuclear Meltdowns" over everything from a toy not doing what he wanted to not getting a paice of candy from the store to not being able to spend the rest of his natural life in the McDonald's Play Place. For a mor detailed description see: "Google Search: Oppositional Defiant Disorder Definition" and it's been that way ever since...
The problems progressed into potty training. After the initial struggle, he was doing great for a few months straight so we stopped buying pull-ups. He said to us one day that: "he wanted pull-ups again", we said "you're a big boy, you don't need them", as expected he threw a fit, but got over it. He was 2 at the time. A few days later when he asked again, we gave the same answer. It was 4 days later and he was running around the house screaming in pain because he hadn't pooped in "4 DAYS!" OMG! We had been in touch with a developmental councelor whos said that: "we needed to be consistent and he would eventually realize that it is easier to comply." YEAH RIGHT! Not with this kid! Long story short: It took some creative meal planning with natural laxatives, prescription suppositories, and a year of beating our heads against the wall. He finally gave in and started using the potty full-time, just before our daughter was born.
Things were back to "normal" until he started school. It took the first half a year to get him to not throw an "Epic Tantrum" when someone else got to be the head of the line and hold the teacher's hand. We figured it was just because the whole thing was new and exciting.
Then it was being sent to the office for punching and kicking other kids that made it harder than "usual" on us. The following school year was no exception. It was more of the same, not matter how mant time we explain it he flat does not want to do ANYTHING unless it's his idea. Including the utterly simple common sense things. He would rather spend the entire day staring at the door than ask one of us to open the top latch so he can go outside and play. He expects us to snap to and obey his every whim at a grunt and finger pointing. And when he doesn't want to do something, it takes shear force to get him to do it, even then you may get him to where you want him but getting him to physically do anything is completely exhausting!
After our daughter started expressing herself more and our difficult child started the second grade, we noticed that the other kids are more like what we thought normal was supposed to be as is our daughter. It's sad that it took this long for us to realized that counting the days and weeks until his 18th birthday was not how parenting was supposed to be.
My wife and I spoke to a family councelor who suggested that our problems with the difficult child sounded like ODD. I must have visited 100 diferant websites, and all of the definitions fit to a tee. I mean 10 out of 10 symptoms/traits hit on the nose. His teachers agree that he does not exibit the signs of ADD or ADHD. We are in the process of getting him assesed and diagnosed and I am all but 100% sure that they will say it's ODD.
If anyone has any tips we would really appreciate it...