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Well, his closet doors haven't been on in a couple or more years because he kicked them,slammed them,(sliding doors) and now he has broken his bedroom door off a few days ago. He is know locking himself in the bathroom in the bathroom kicking and pounding that door in too. He also pulls the door from the hinges when mad,knowing the screws will loosen and it can come off. He is mad at the moment because we asked him to "please move your toys so we can get passed" well he said in a mean voice" oh you want me to move it this stays here so I can clean my mess" well, he has trashed the kitchen, living,bathroom and his bedroom floor. Toys,books,papers, food everywhere! I cant even tell you how many times I have cleaned it in just one day!!!!! So being desperate and not wanting to fight with him I said" Ok, honey, leave that there until your done picking up and as soon as your done, please move it" He said "OK" and took a baseball part ( plastic tube to connect to the base) and started thrashing it around violently moving the junk on the floor around the room,hitting the walls, chasing his sister. Thats it, so I said calmly but firmly" No, that's not what you do and proceeded to take it from his nicely" He ran to the couch swinging almost hitting my glass gerbil tank. As I took it away, I said you almost hit and broke the tank... he said I don't care ran to the bathroom and it began. He is really getting angry over anything.
I wish I knew if he really understands how he should act, if he does this just because he mad and has a temper= his way or the highway? Can he control it, or does he lose control and honestly cant stop, or understand how to? Does he know right from wrong, is he lazy, is there something Im missing? Something he is missing? I know bored kids can do this, I play with him, he plays outside, with other kids etc. I know you all said get that other book "what the explosive child is trying to tell you", Tuesday it will be in .. I don't know what happened to the other I had. I also get the camcorders!
Its like I tell him and show him over and over again about water near electrical outlets/fish tank's and carpets. He will not stop pouring water near there, and he will get mad and just pour the cup upside own slowly and say "see , you made me do it, or its her fault. He ripped his blinds down and blamed his sister.. she did it her fault! But yet, when he calms down, he says, "she made me do it" ????
Im clearing out their rooms of everything but the beds and dressers, ok they will have their clothes of course. Im done with them not picking up ,not going to bed or getting up, all the arguing. So they will have to earn it back one at a time. They have a lot of stuff, so I will donate and pack most of it. I did this once before and it sort of worked... but those violent tantrums were constant for a few days! I will do this Tuesday when they go back to school. Then they can tell me once again .. "to stay out of their room" "Stay of their life" "Im the worst parent ever" Im no good" Im a loser and fat"" Daddy is better" Why am I so mean"" Why do I hate them" (I make them shower, help clean their mess, study, basic stuff, oh limit or cut all electronics when behind in subjects or in trouble etc, clothes and whatever they need) They need new school shoes again and will I go take them in a public place? NO! I will buy the shoes Tuesday, and if they are to small or big I will go back to change them while they are in school. Sad isnt it? Its gotten to the point I dont want to go in public because its my son not listening at all, tantrums at times and wanting everything, and my daughter throws a fit if I dont buy her a dozen shoes and movies/games!!! I wills shop in peace. Still working on getting help, but they keep saying its all my fault! Of course some is, Im not perfect, I wil admit! But Im ok!
Thanks for listening once again.... Hugs to all and hope you all are ok....
I wish I knew if he really understands how he should act, if he does this just because he mad and has a temper= his way or the highway? Can he control it, or does he lose control and honestly cant stop, or understand how to? Does he know right from wrong, is he lazy, is there something Im missing? Something he is missing? I know bored kids can do this, I play with him, he plays outside, with other kids etc. I know you all said get that other book "what the explosive child is trying to tell you", Tuesday it will be in .. I don't know what happened to the other I had. I also get the camcorders!
Its like I tell him and show him over and over again about water near electrical outlets/fish tank's and carpets. He will not stop pouring water near there, and he will get mad and just pour the cup upside own slowly and say "see , you made me do it, or its her fault. He ripped his blinds down and blamed his sister.. she did it her fault! But yet, when he calms down, he says, "she made me do it" ????
Im clearing out their rooms of everything but the beds and dressers, ok they will have their clothes of course. Im done with them not picking up ,not going to bed or getting up, all the arguing. So they will have to earn it back one at a time. They have a lot of stuff, so I will donate and pack most of it. I did this once before and it sort of worked... but those violent tantrums were constant for a few days! I will do this Tuesday when they go back to school. Then they can tell me once again .. "to stay out of their room" "Stay of their life" "Im the worst parent ever" Im no good" Im a loser and fat"" Daddy is better" Why am I so mean"" Why do I hate them" (I make them shower, help clean their mess, study, basic stuff, oh limit or cut all electronics when behind in subjects or in trouble etc, clothes and whatever they need) They need new school shoes again and will I go take them in a public place? NO! I will buy the shoes Tuesday, and if they are to small or big I will go back to change them while they are in school. Sad isnt it? Its gotten to the point I dont want to go in public because its my son not listening at all, tantrums at times and wanting everything, and my daughter throws a fit if I dont buy her a dozen shoes and movies/games!!! I wills shop in peace. Still working on getting help, but they keep saying its all my fault! Of course some is, Im not perfect, I wil admit! But Im ok!
Thanks for listening once again.... Hugs to all and hope you all are ok....