So you know that only idiots work at your county level. What is the address for the state level? Where are the state offices? NOT the ones in the county that the capitol is in, but the actual executive offices? THAT is where you need to call. You need to find the top dog and then be in his face and on his case. Offer to drop your difficult child off at his office with her belongings and HE can be her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for two months. At the end of two months if he honestly thinks she has been well served and is "fixed" then she can go live with HIM.
Seriously, get on the phone to the exec offices and give them an earful. Make sure you have an outline written out of what the problem is, the various meetings, how each time you contact them at the county office they tell you that the person suppsoed to be helping you has quit and said your daughter and family are fine and not in crisis and in the 3 or however many years you have tried to get help you have had ONE person show up maybe six times. TOTAL. You just had a meeting and were told that that person did not close your case and actually didn't document anything and that they have spent YEARS since you were approved for services and have given exactly no services and now, since your daughter spent the night with a friend, her services are cancelled because she doesn't live with you. If she doesn't live iwth you then WHY is it that the school will come after YOU if she is truant, the IRS gives YOU the deduction for having her as a dependent, and how does ONE night or even a week of nights with a friend count as not living with you? For crying out loud if you claimed that you were not responsible for her because she spent one night with another family, children's services would haul you into court and force you to take her home. but social services can claim that since she spent a single night at a friends then you don't have custody and she doesn't get services.
Trust me, the top dog does NOT want to bother with this. Calling him and tossing it onto his lap wll mean he is NOT HAPPy which means he will make someone not happy for acting like such idiots that you had to go to him to resolve the problem.
Also ask why it is that their ENTIRE budget seems to go to working very very hard to make sure that no one gets any kind of help of any kind. Are they truly spending your tax dollars to do nothing except tell parents that they can have help but they need six months to have meetings and at the end of the fourth month the case is closed because the family isn't in crisis anymore even if the problems are worse than ever before?
Makes you wonder if it wouldn't be better to just drop her off at the office of these people wiht a few outfits in a backpack. After all, they are the ones in charge and they said she doesn't live with you. So clearly they know where she does live, so you will let them explain it to her and figure it out.
But be sure you drop her off at the office of the TOP executive in the state - not the local office. Just be sure to leave a note saying that the local office said the case was closed and she doesn't live with you so you are not a family in crisis. They didn't tell you where she DOES live, so you will let them figure it out.
I wonder what would happen if you did that?