I am glad you are with us again. I know you must feel terribly lost and all sorts of other exhausting things. It hoovers to realize that your kids believe a far dfferent set of events happened than you knew of or remember. I have been dealing with this with Wiz, though on a far different scale than you are enduring/experiencing. No matter what happens, how good or bad it gets, we are here and you are in our prayers. Even when you don't check in often you are in our daily prayers. (You just can't escape us!!! But we won't push or pry, promise.)
I am sorry you have to protect yourself from kt, but it s best she learn this lesson at this age, rather than after years of inappropriate actions. She is still learning and growing, and her brain is still developing. I am sure that as much as she s possibly able to , she will come full circle and will appreciate you. It may have to wait until she gets a taste of parenting, but eventually we all grow up at least a bit.
You are an awesome mom, even though now you tasks as mom are to let go and make them endure their own bad choices and the consequences that follow.