Does your difficult child accuse you of being a jerk (or other choice words) on a continual basis? Mine likes to say that we never do anything for her, ever. We are jerks, everyone is nicer/better/more sympathetic than we are (if only THEY had to live with her!!!). After getting fired from her week-old job a few days ago, my daughter decided to go out and party with her girlfriends last night. Because a day can never go by without some catastrophic drama, she calls this morning to let me know she lost her purse. Sucks. I understand that. But, the big deal is that she can't visit her boyfriend, who is in jail for 4th drunk driving violation, without her ID. He's the only one that makes her happy. He thinks that she's got to work until 8pm tonight (he set the visits up around her work schedule), and so he's going to come to his visit and sit and sit and wait, and be mad at her for not showing up. Hmm. So... since I won't go down there at 9pm on a Saturday night and visit him for her to tell him that she can't visit, I'm a jerk. I don't care about her, I'm selfish and I, "Don't have my back like other families have their kid's back." I've been hearing about this ALL DAY. I'm so tired of hearing about how I do nothing, and how I'm a horrible person. Real, real tired. Even though she's freshly showered with MY shower, MY conditioner, MY body wash, MY shampoo, MY clean towels, in MY air-conditioned house, eating MY food, sleeping in MY house. I'm a jerk who does NOTHING for you? Whatever. (Thanks for hearing the vent. ) What are you a jerk for?