:: the dreaded school phone call. about how difficult child 2 is constantly putting her head on her desk (actually feel asleep yesterday) and is yelling at everyone, particularly when being corrected over something. so now the school wants to give her detention as a "natural consequence". at least they had the courtesy to call and discuss it with me--for that i'm grateful today. i just give up. i have no idea what my difficult child 2 is doing. i have no idea if she's actually tired, or just bored. i have no idea if she is irritable for a reason, or if its just puberty and her general inappropriateness. i have no idea if abilify is helping or hurting the situation. she also gained a boatload of weight--again, abilify or puberty? for all i know it could be the change of seasons--she does seem to ramp up in fall. i do understand she just cannot be doing any of it. i also have no idea why, when she has a personal aide, that i'm not being informed of these things daily and why i'm blindsided by all of it....most likely because when you ask difficult child 2 how the day was the answer is always f-i-n-e. her attitude isnt fabulous at home either, but its not as bad as school. *she* doesnt seem to care, and i'm not totally convinced she is able to control any of it. she knows all the babblespeak, but heaven forbid she actually implement it. i just have no idea how to fix the situation, particularly if difficult child 2 herself isnt up for the task. i can't "make" her behave. i drag her to therapy. in fact, since things dont seem to be working, i found a new therapist and a new group, both slated to start next week. i have high hopes...why, I don't know, but i was very positive about the whole thing until today. now i see myself throwing good money after bad for no real reason. there isnt even any real point to calling the psychiatrist since i'm sure he'll just say keep her on the abilify, and everything else is unrelated, and tough noogies--"redirect her behavior". maybe i'm just feeling sorry for myself, maybe i'm just at the end of my rope, I don't know, but i gave my permission for this detention business, even though it *feels* kind of wrong to me (without knowing the reason why any of this is happening) and felt like saying, 'start looking for out of district placement". i'm also strongly thinking about home punishment, even though that also *feels* wrong, but this cant go on. we are pretty much exactly where we started, except she isnt sitting in a corner crying and she seems to be grounded in reality. today, at least. i'm open to any thoughts or suggestions at this point.