klmno
Active Member
OK, here's the situation. I'm attracted to someone- A LOT. But, in a way, it's someone who I shouldn't be attracted to and they shouldn't be attracted to me, in a way. I have very limited contact with this person and there is always someone else around. This third person seemed to notice once that there was "something" between me and the object of my thoughts and asked a lot of questions about what was going on. There is/was nothing going on except that it probably became noticable that I was very attracted. My object of thoughts (OOT) was looking at me a lot and seemed interested in some ways, but seemed to just be going on about their business in others. I tried to answer the questions from the third person in a way that hid everything and probably sent mixed messages to the OOT as a result. The last time I saw the OOT, we spent some time just looking at each other. The third person noticed this but didn't say anything. I'm not in a good position to contact the OOT and the OOT could get into trouble if they contacted me, if I was the type to get them into trouble. There has been no inappropriate contact to date. The OOT did asked to keep my contact info but that was months ago and I haven't gotten any contact. My head tells me to forget this. My heart keeps telling me that there might be a mutual interest in just getting to know each other, but I don't see that there's anything I can do. This makes me feel like I'm a youngster again, LOL! How can I make myself get past this? I keep telling myself that the ball is in the OOT's court, but then I know that the OOT probably wouldn't be comfortable making a move for us to be alone and have time to talk since I sent such mixed messages. This is very frustrating!!
Oh- it's been a long time since I've been really attracted to someone or been in a relationship so I don't wan to make an arse out of myself and read too much into anything or go nuts over someone. But I have no doubt that this person was spending some time keeping an eye on me, too. I just can't be sure if that was due to any kind of personal interest or not. My head tells me that if it was a personl interest, the OOT would have contacted me already, right?
Oh- it's been a long time since I've been really attracted to someone or been in a relationship so I don't wan to make an arse out of myself and read too much into anything or go nuts over someone. But I have no doubt that this person was spending some time keeping an eye on me, too. I just can't be sure if that was due to any kind of personal interest or not. My head tells me that if it was a personl interest, the OOT would have contacted me already, right?
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