twistedfrog
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Just found this place and am not sure where to post this so thought this forum would work.
My husband and I have been dealing with our daughter and her issues for so long now that it has started to have a negative impact on our marriage and our son.
Let me back up a bit.
Our daughter was daignosed with ADD/ODD when she was in the third grade. She is now 16. We have gone through to many tharapist to count. She has always been able to manipulate them like you would not belive. She actually got one lady to tell us it was okay for her to like and steal and we as her parents shouldn't put her in a positon to have to lie to us.
Over the years things have just gotten worse. She is now on probation for 2 years for stealing. Doesn't seem to phase her in the least. She refuses to do her community service or anything else she is required to do. The court told her she had to get a job so she could pay her court cost.( they won't let parents pay)
She has had two jobs in the last month and lost them both. True to the ODD though its not her fault.
I had to go home from work last week and have to the police come out and talk to her as she got into it with her father. Didn't phase her a bit to have an armed cop walk into her room and 11:30 at night. We had cut all access to the internet after finding out she was getting online and trying to hook up with 19 and 20 year old men on My Space. Now I discover tonight that she has somehow gotten the password to the computer at home and getting online when I am asleep. ( I work nights)
My husband feels like he is a failure, and I just feel like crying I am so frusterated. He had a heart attack in March and I worry for him when he gets so upset with her. He can not stand to be lied to and that is about all our daughter does when she talks to him. When she lost her job she asked me not to say anything to him. I told her she would have to tell him and her P.O. I had to tell the P.O. and found out that tonight when he asked about her job, she stood there and lied to his face. So I told him what happened. Or rather what I was told happened. He got upset with me, felt like I lied to him. That was not my intent at all. I wanted to give her a chance to tell her father herself.
I have actually gotten to the point I am ready to just let the state take her and raise her for the next 2 years. Our son stays in his room most of the time so he doesn't have to be around her. He is 12 and won't ask friends over or anything. We had to go to Denver this week end and I had to get a babysitter for her. (she ended up being put on EHM for going to the library and getting on the computer when she said she was out looking for work.) She actually thinks its cool to have all this going on.
She was evaluated for bipolar and they said she is depressed!
Sorry this is so long winded. I just really needed to vent and try to find some way to deal with this child. I love her dearly but right now I don't like her very much and really don't want her in my house.
froggy
My husband and I have been dealing with our daughter and her issues for so long now that it has started to have a negative impact on our marriage and our son.
Let me back up a bit.
Our daughter was daignosed with ADD/ODD when she was in the third grade. She is now 16. We have gone through to many tharapist to count. She has always been able to manipulate them like you would not belive. She actually got one lady to tell us it was okay for her to like and steal and we as her parents shouldn't put her in a positon to have to lie to us.
Over the years things have just gotten worse. She is now on probation for 2 years for stealing. Doesn't seem to phase her in the least. She refuses to do her community service or anything else she is required to do. The court told her she had to get a job so she could pay her court cost.( they won't let parents pay)
She has had two jobs in the last month and lost them both. True to the ODD though its not her fault.
I had to go home from work last week and have to the police come out and talk to her as she got into it with her father. Didn't phase her a bit to have an armed cop walk into her room and 11:30 at night. We had cut all access to the internet after finding out she was getting online and trying to hook up with 19 and 20 year old men on My Space. Now I discover tonight that she has somehow gotten the password to the computer at home and getting online when I am asleep. ( I work nights)
My husband feels like he is a failure, and I just feel like crying I am so frusterated. He had a heart attack in March and I worry for him when he gets so upset with her. He can not stand to be lied to and that is about all our daughter does when she talks to him. When she lost her job she asked me not to say anything to him. I told her she would have to tell him and her P.O. I had to tell the P.O. and found out that tonight when he asked about her job, she stood there and lied to his face. So I told him what happened. Or rather what I was told happened. He got upset with me, felt like I lied to him. That was not my intent at all. I wanted to give her a chance to tell her father herself.
I have actually gotten to the point I am ready to just let the state take her and raise her for the next 2 years. Our son stays in his room most of the time so he doesn't have to be around her. He is 12 and won't ask friends over or anything. We had to go to Denver this week end and I had to get a babysitter for her. (she ended up being put on EHM for going to the library and getting on the computer when she said she was out looking for work.) She actually thinks its cool to have all this going on.
She was evaluated for bipolar and they said she is depressed!
Sorry this is so long winded. I just really needed to vent and try to find some way to deal with this child. I love her dearly but right now I don't like her very much and really don't want her in my house.
froggy