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I posted last week about husband told the kids, my in-laws, and my sister that we were going to Disney World at the end of June, despite the fact that he promised me that we would do something else and despite the fact that I have NO desire to go to Disney this year. I went last year and vacations with difficult child, no matter where we go, are just no fun. He screams every name in the book at me and throws temper tantrums, and just makes the whole thing miserable for everyone invlolved. I can do that at home for free.
So I told husband that I would not go. He got really angry and said that we just wouldn't go anywhere and it was all my fault. Fine. I don't care, but now HE could tell the kids that we weren't going. Every day I asked him, "Did you talk to difficult child about the fact that we're not going to Disney?" Every day he conveniently forgot.
Yesterday he finally talked to him. difficult child said, "I know that mom is the parent and she gets the final say, but I am NOT happy with this decision."
Then he came after me. "I want to go and you're not taking my feeling into account!" Really, I had to bite my tounge because there were SOOOO many things that I wanted to say, but I simply told him that I had to go last year despite the fact that I had no desire to go and no one seemed to care about my feelings then. Now, everyone was going to take my feeling into account and if that means not going anywhere, then so be it! Then he came back with, "Well, if you don't want to go to Disney where do you want to go?"
Now, all of a sudden he says he'll do what someone else wants? All along he's been screaming that if we don't go to Disney he doesn't want to go anywhere. So, he got his wish. Disney or nothing. And he got nothing.
Truthfully, I don't want to go anywhere with him. What he does not seem to understand if that the only vacations I have ever enjoyed are the ones where he and easy child were left home!
So I told husband that I would not go. He got really angry and said that we just wouldn't go anywhere and it was all my fault. Fine. I don't care, but now HE could tell the kids that we weren't going. Every day I asked him, "Did you talk to difficult child about the fact that we're not going to Disney?" Every day he conveniently forgot.
Yesterday he finally talked to him. difficult child said, "I know that mom is the parent and she gets the final say, but I am NOT happy with this decision."
Then he came after me. "I want to go and you're not taking my feeling into account!" Really, I had to bite my tounge because there were SOOOO many things that I wanted to say, but I simply told him that I had to go last year despite the fact that I had no desire to go and no one seemed to care about my feelings then. Now, everyone was going to take my feeling into account and if that means not going anywhere, then so be it! Then he came back with, "Well, if you don't want to go to Disney where do you want to go?"
Now, all of a sudden he says he'll do what someone else wants? All along he's been screaming that if we don't go to Disney he doesn't want to go anywhere. So, he got his wish. Disney or nothing. And he got nothing.
Truthfully, I don't want to go anywhere with him. What he does not seem to understand if that the only vacations I have ever enjoyed are the ones where he and easy child were left home!