hi to all
figured i'd write this on a new thread. i read all of your responses and appreciate them all. I'm not going to beat her, repeat i'm not going to beat her. yet i see your point, their hard to deal with and it's hard to handle an almost 15 year old who is pushing limits beyond every time she's with me.
today:
she pushed and pushed verbally attacked me. we were starting a new routine with homework and i happened to be home today office was closed. i said here ;s the new deal when you are disrespectful to me in any way you wil be removed, you will be placed in your room far away. when you can get a hold of your emotions and handle yourself with some respect then you will be released.
she had to be told to leave the kitchen 5 times thats right 5 times today. she wouldnt' give in, and all i wanted was for her to do her homework and to be respectful. she stood there in my face telling me how i have no clue what i;m doing what a looser mom i am, how for fourteen years ive screwed up with her and now i think that a social worker is going to help me figure out how to deal with her, she insulted where we lived, she pushed and pushed.
what did i do. repeat the same thing calmly and from a distance which was when you can be respectful to me is when i will release you back out of your room. if you can come down and work on your homework and id' be happy to help in anyway then please by all means come down.
amount of hours it took to get her to break to do her homework and to not verbally attack me two and a half hours. yes it can be done, i know this nor is it the first time this has occured with her.
i do have a very sick sense of humor it is hard to understand via the web........i understand taht yet i would never beat her. i may want to, i may have to control myself, yet when push comes to shove i will not beat her i never have.
so yes would i benefit from continuing to go to the pyschiatrist i've been seeing yes very much so yet i can continue dealing obviously without immediate medications'. have i taken drugs no i have not. i think that someone misunderstood. i have xanax that i have yet to take.
i am in control. i may be having a very hard time and figuring out me at the same time i'm dealing with two very troublesome difficult child's but i'm not the beat the kid kinda mom.
so i'm sorry if i scared anyone with my very twisted sense of humor.
i do appreciate as always everyone's input. it was after reading yesterday's responses i knew how to move forward with her.
jenn
figured i'd write this on a new thread. i read all of your responses and appreciate them all. I'm not going to beat her, repeat i'm not going to beat her. yet i see your point, their hard to deal with and it's hard to handle an almost 15 year old who is pushing limits beyond every time she's with me.
today:
she pushed and pushed verbally attacked me. we were starting a new routine with homework and i happened to be home today office was closed. i said here ;s the new deal when you are disrespectful to me in any way you wil be removed, you will be placed in your room far away. when you can get a hold of your emotions and handle yourself with some respect then you will be released.
she had to be told to leave the kitchen 5 times thats right 5 times today. she wouldnt' give in, and all i wanted was for her to do her homework and to be respectful. she stood there in my face telling me how i have no clue what i;m doing what a looser mom i am, how for fourteen years ive screwed up with her and now i think that a social worker is going to help me figure out how to deal with her, she insulted where we lived, she pushed and pushed.
what did i do. repeat the same thing calmly and from a distance which was when you can be respectful to me is when i will release you back out of your room. if you can come down and work on your homework and id' be happy to help in anyway then please by all means come down.
amount of hours it took to get her to break to do her homework and to not verbally attack me two and a half hours. yes it can be done, i know this nor is it the first time this has occured with her.
i do have a very sick sense of humor it is hard to understand via the web........i understand taht yet i would never beat her. i may want to, i may have to control myself, yet when push comes to shove i will not beat her i never have.
so yes would i benefit from continuing to go to the pyschiatrist i've been seeing yes very much so yet i can continue dealing obviously without immediate medications'. have i taken drugs no i have not. i think that someone misunderstood. i have xanax that i have yet to take.
i am in control. i may be having a very hard time and figuring out me at the same time i'm dealing with two very troublesome difficult child's but i'm not the beat the kid kinda mom.
so i'm sorry if i scared anyone with my very twisted sense of humor.
i do appreciate as always everyone's input. it was after reading yesterday's responses i knew how to move forward with her.
jenn