Mattsmom277
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It's been a couple of weeks now since I learned about having a new older sister. I've had a phone call from the detective in charge of the investigation and she updated me on a visit she paid to my sisters mother. Her mother was unwilling to speak on the issue at all although she didn't deny that my father fathered her daughter and this after the detective said there is no reason to feel shame or a need to protect her daughter since obviously her daughter has already figured it all out. The detective left off by advising her that if she chooses to come forward, the crown attorney will lay charges. I doubt she will come forward because she won't even privately discuss anything with my sister. I feel sad for my sister, yet I also understand the awful situation her mother is in and I realize that ending a 40 odd year secret that she's hidden all of this time can't be an easy choice.
As for my sister, we have spoken daily since she drove to town to meet me. She is coming to town on a day trip for a doctors appointment next week and will be back the week after (or so) for surgery at our hospital so I'll be seeing her daily while she is there. She may stay after discharge with me for a few days to recoup before a long drive home post op. Later in August I am going to spend a few days at my new found aunts cottage and we will be driving on the last day to my sisters town for a visit. I'll be staying over at my sisters for a few days so that I can meet my niece and her baby son. I'm very much looking forward to it. I've been messaging online with my niece and she's terrific. She's young (18) and bipolar, had her son very young. Yet she's fiery and strong willed and loving and outgoing. I like her .
This entire journey has been so insane and difficult to truly absorb in its enormity. Yet here I find these beautiful new women to add into our family and it feels as though they've always been here. From being alone in all of this to sharing it with family who are decent and kind and good. Wow. My aunt and sister are both going to be attending his first court appearance mid August together. Funny enough in all of the pain, there was a comment made to me about how he is going to freak out when he sees all of us, who he assumes are unknown to each other, walking in together in solidarity. I imagine that part of all of us that wants to see him visibly squirm is going to feel a tiny bit of satisfaction. I'm glad to have these women with me also since I know other victims will be in attendance and we'll be learning more of the "unknowns" seeing as there are several victims that have come forward that we don't even know their names. Somehow it is less frightening to picture that room with these new relatives alongside.
As for my sister, we have spoken daily since she drove to town to meet me. She is coming to town on a day trip for a doctors appointment next week and will be back the week after (or so) for surgery at our hospital so I'll be seeing her daily while she is there. She may stay after discharge with me for a few days to recoup before a long drive home post op. Later in August I am going to spend a few days at my new found aunts cottage and we will be driving on the last day to my sisters town for a visit. I'll be staying over at my sisters for a few days so that I can meet my niece and her baby son. I'm very much looking forward to it. I've been messaging online with my niece and she's terrific. She's young (18) and bipolar, had her son very young. Yet she's fiery and strong willed and loving and outgoing. I like her .
This entire journey has been so insane and difficult to truly absorb in its enormity. Yet here I find these beautiful new women to add into our family and it feels as though they've always been here. From being alone in all of this to sharing it with family who are decent and kind and good. Wow. My aunt and sister are both going to be attending his first court appearance mid August together. Funny enough in all of the pain, there was a comment made to me about how he is going to freak out when he sees all of us, who he assumes are unknown to each other, walking in together in solidarity. I imagine that part of all of us that wants to see him visibly squirm is going to feel a tiny bit of satisfaction. I'm glad to have these women with me also since I know other victims will be in attendance and we'll be learning more of the "unknowns" seeing as there are several victims that have come forward that we don't even know their names. Somehow it is less frightening to picture that room with these new relatives alongside.