hi all,
sorry it's been so long but summer is a very busy time around here. so we made an appointment with my gp for my son and just like magic the soiling accidents stopped. how do you like that? the worst part we now deal with is proper bum-wiping. so i am beginning to think that his problem isn't as medical as we once thought. we are still going to follow through and are waiting to get an appointment with a pediatrician. in the mean time we have now made an appointment with a social worker, who works out of my gp's offices, to try and get a handle on the behavioural issues.
it's just maddening! i'm thrilled that we are no longer dealing with the horrible messes he made but now it just feels like he did all that on purpose! he was terrified when he found out about the doctor's appointment. i went out of my way to see to it that he went to a female gp (i know her and she is sweet and soft-spoken) as opposed to my older and stern-voiced male gp (who is getting ready to retire soon) so he would not feel intimidated. i had to give him lots of reassurance that nothing bad or painful was going to happen to him. i think his fears "inspired" him to get better control over his toilet habits.
i have also signed up for a local support group which begins in the fall so, i'm looking forward to that. right now we are taking things one day at a time, one argument at a time. when i have the patience i simply point out to him when he is behaving oppositional towards me (or others) and i ask him to think about why he is doing it and what he hopes to accomplish with his behaviour. when i am out of patience, sadly, there is a lot of yelling coming from me. i HATE that!!! i feel like the worst, most ineffective parent in the world. it is my dearest wish right now to get the yelling to stop. that was the one thing i thought i would never do as a mom because i grew up around a lot of yelling (my parents fought all the time) and here i am having shouting matches with my kid . he drives me nuts but i feel so sorry for him. like if he had a better mother things wouldn't be as bad as they are. poor kid.
anyway, things are looking up and i am hopeful. i want to thank you all for your support and advice getting me on the right track. will let y'all know how things go with the social worker. thanks again!!!
me - 33, social anxiety disorder
husband - 29, just moody
difficult child 1 - 8, ODD possible encopresis
difficult child 2 - 17 mos, happy little baby
sorry it's been so long but summer is a very busy time around here. so we made an appointment with my gp for my son and just like magic the soiling accidents stopped. how do you like that? the worst part we now deal with is proper bum-wiping. so i am beginning to think that his problem isn't as medical as we once thought. we are still going to follow through and are waiting to get an appointment with a pediatrician. in the mean time we have now made an appointment with a social worker, who works out of my gp's offices, to try and get a handle on the behavioural issues.
it's just maddening! i'm thrilled that we are no longer dealing with the horrible messes he made but now it just feels like he did all that on purpose! he was terrified when he found out about the doctor's appointment. i went out of my way to see to it that he went to a female gp (i know her and she is sweet and soft-spoken) as opposed to my older and stern-voiced male gp (who is getting ready to retire soon) so he would not feel intimidated. i had to give him lots of reassurance that nothing bad or painful was going to happen to him. i think his fears "inspired" him to get better control over his toilet habits.
i have also signed up for a local support group which begins in the fall so, i'm looking forward to that. right now we are taking things one day at a time, one argument at a time. when i have the patience i simply point out to him when he is behaving oppositional towards me (or others) and i ask him to think about why he is doing it and what he hopes to accomplish with his behaviour. when i am out of patience, sadly, there is a lot of yelling coming from me. i HATE that!!! i feel like the worst, most ineffective parent in the world. it is my dearest wish right now to get the yelling to stop. that was the one thing i thought i would never do as a mom because i grew up around a lot of yelling (my parents fought all the time) and here i am having shouting matches with my kid . he drives me nuts but i feel so sorry for him. like if he had a better mother things wouldn't be as bad as they are. poor kid.
anyway, things are looking up and i am hopeful. i want to thank you all for your support and advice getting me on the right track. will let y'all know how things go with the social worker. thanks again!!!
me - 33, social anxiety disorder
husband - 29, just moody
difficult child 1 - 8, ODD possible encopresis
difficult child 2 - 17 mos, happy little baby