decided to have her boyfriend over with whom we warned her not to have over last night. We hardly ever go out anymore, and so we did. I was so excited it was the first time in 2 years that we'd ever been out on a sat. night, due to rest. we dont' get any weekend time. so, we went to manhattan to my oldest and dearest friends' apt. for a xmas party. we had drinks first at some bar on 34th, it was great. it was like a sudden reminder why i keep this guy around. the drive out was nice, we didn't talk about the 5 kids, or the finances, just stuff random stuff and we laughed and it was so cool. like the beginning. just one night out with that man and i fall in love all over again with him. and yes believe it or not i'm actually talking about boyfriend. lol so, long story short and this is why i'm posting on the General Board, easy child texted us all night long and we were both wondering why. we thought ok maybe she's just bored and missing us. hmmmm boyfriend knew better. kept asking oh, when are you coming home, etc. difficult child was at her dad's so we felt like ok i'Tourette's Syndrome clear to go out. easy child had a concert the night before with her friend and friends mom so we didn't send her on sleepover we let her "rest up" supposedly at home. once again we warned her not to have boyfriend over, she promised up and down no , no, no. well, we got in late last night i went to check on her, her cel was buzzing she was fast asleep. i take the cell and yes the noisy mom in me checks her texts. let me just say within ten minutes i was in tears. let me just say boyfriend is incredibly good at handling me when i get upset, and calming me down so i can deal with stuff. especially teenager stuff he has a knack for bringing calm. she had boyfriend over, all her texts were about her deciding whether or not to do it with him, etc. etc. from her friends. so, she lied, she had him here when we weren't home, lied to my face, text me all night and bothered me on our one big date, had this boy at our home, with important rest. stuff here as well (no we haven't gotten a safe yet), and i don't know what hse did or didn't do with him. yet by the texts something def went on. so after an hour long talk last night with boyfriend and him calming me down, than an hour long talk with easy child this morning. wow what a talk that was. i said you lied, number 1, number 2 you had him here and shouldn't of, so now trust is totally gone in our relationship yet again. number 3 you have been making such good choices and we have all been so impressed with you, now you made one bad choice and that has wiped the others away. ok i'll stop numbering them lol, i said also you are engaging in something you are simply not ready for mentally and emotionally you are only 15 years old. etc, etc, was a really long talk. so, boyfriend is going to talk to easy child's boyfriend. have a long talk with him, and also set him straight and scare him a little now. clearly the boy has no fear. i'm brining easy child to planned parenthood so she can sit down and talk to a dr. to become even more enlighted about it all, and also popping her on the pill. i'm calm now, i try to stay calm because i know easy child will do more things that will freak me out, this is just the beginning. yet i said to her if anyone has a baby in this house it will be me, certainly not you. so, that's that. it's hard switching gears this way. she's still the girl i put diapers on and fed, and sat with in the park. she's getting involved with something she just isnt' ready for. obvious disappointment in her bigtime. it's never ever dull that's for sure. i just had to get that off my chest. if you guys made it down this far.