JJJ
Active Member
I didn't want your introduction to get lost...
I have no advice, but reading your post made me break down and cry in relief of another understanding. I have recently VOLENTARILY placed my son with therapeutic foster care because I was so concerned about his avoidance of responsibility and lack of care of his cause and effect. I was trying to prevent worse behaviors and get him the help he needed, but within one week he chose to cross a big line and assulted and threatened death. This is not his "normal" personality. Now I am terrified that that part of him has been released and I don't know how to help or what to do because it is the birth parents who are looked to as the ones at fault. I have been loving and firm in rightous beliefs with him, but like you no punishment/consequence has seemed to deter him or correct his pattern of thinking other than to gain more information on how to manipulate the situation for the next time. He too is very smart, but has Asperger's which in order to teach him about social interaction he has to be exposed which is becomeing dangerous for those around him. And I am stuck between making forceful decisions and pushing him through that ability to manipulate and not providing him with the experiances that he needs to develope. Anyway, although you are on the other side of the program as I, I understand. Just wish that my "team" believed me to start with instead of pushing him to his limits that he lashes.