I have a cousin who lives in Oklahoma---N. Nice girl, but definitely Aspie (lack of social etiquette). Her father (my 1st cousin/much older) was a brilliant mathematician/college professor who left her mom and married his 2nd wife. He then disowned N and her sister. He ended up dying in a alcoholic stupor all alone---after his 2nd wife died and he drove cross country with body (illegally) so he could bury her in the family cemetery---he was just a little "touched" as my family would say. Her father's only sister is also a little "touched." There has been no contact with her in 20 years. My old-maid sister and I are the only family she has any contact with. She has a daughter who is 20---Y. Y applied and was accepted to a local university. Y wants to be a marine biologist----this U one of the top ranked programs in the country, yet she has only seen the ocean once in her life. (We have a tripped planned to the beach tomorrow.) So N arrived with 4 of her 7 kids---so she can visit the school. N did call first and let us know she was coming. She and the four kids are staying with my old maid sister--who I am sure is about to have a nervous breakdown. Finally, here's the big issue. Apparently N plans to leave Y here until school starts---in August (apparently with my sis or me). Y does not drive(we have no public transportation). Y has never had a job. Y is very, very socially awkward. She dresses like the worst case scenario from "What not to wear." She has been home schooled and has lived in backwoods OK most of her life---20 miles to nearest store---80 miles to anything metro. Her socialization has come from attending Renaissance fairs. I am sure that "fashion" and "grooming" have not been stressed in their home. I am also fairly certain that money is very, very tight. Y is staying here tonight. Jana took her out with her to meet up with some friends. I want to help this girl be successful in this new venture. But, how? I'm very concerned about her entering a large uni. What can I do?