So I haven't had to come around much lately, which is a blessing, but things are starting to go downhill.
I don't know where to start, so I'll just babble about it. On Saturday he had a friend over (for the first time ever). I could tell he was done playing so we walked to the park and I called friend's mom. In the few minutes it took for her to get there, my son had a major meltdown, screaming, crying, etc. Friend came over and asked if he was ok and my son replied with squinted eyes and a raised fist that he better leave him alone or else. Uh.....what? So the friend says "he does that at school all the time" that of course makes my son more angry and yells about the friend lying, he's hysterical at this point but we have to wait for the friend's mom to get there. We get home, he cries the whole walk home (its less than 5 min) and by the time we get home, he's fine. Completely over the meltdown.
Well, fine, then last night I don't even remember what we were doing, what I said, etc. Last I remember we were joking around. Next thing I know, the fist comes up, the eyes squint up and then he kicks me in the legs. I left the room, then came back turned the tv off and got a bath ready for him. He took a bath, then was told to go to bed (its about 7:00 at this point, bedtime is 8). I told him he could read if he wanted but that he really hurt my feelings and my leg and he needed some time in his room to think about how his actions hurt me. He came out about 7:30 crying about it saying he's so sorry, etc. I think he was really just sorry that he got into trouble, but ok, I gave him a hug and said thank you, now go on back to bed, just because you say you are sorry doesn't mean your punishment is over.
So this morning.....lord help us. he comes in my room at 5:30, I'm up and exercising and tell him he has to go back to bed. He whines and says he's hungry so I say he can go make his breakfast, etc. He eats then I let him lay on the couch and watch TV while I get ready. So, the rest of the morning goes by he's very mouthy but he woke up at 5:30....somewhat expected. So I remind him that being sassy and talking back will make him lose his TV time. I'm walking to the garage at this point to get stuff in the car and ready to go, and he runs up behind me, blocks me in the garage and yells I"M GOING TO KILL YOU!!!!
At this point I don't know what to say so I say "get in the car, now" (its time for school). On the way I tell him that it is never ok to tell someone that and it is never ok to raise his fists at someone and that when he's older he will go to jail for those things. Of course, this upsets him because "you are going to put me in jail" I tell him that I am not putting him anywhere but if he uses his words and fists like that, he will put himself in jail. So great start to our morning.
I need advice, I don't even know what kind. I need something though. I don't know what to do with him, I don't know how to react to these things, I think he needs more counseling than he's getting at school probably, but all the play therapists we've seen are a joke, not that I think I don't need help dealing with-him too but that's what almost all of them want to talk about. That is NOT the issue. This child needs help, yes I need to learn to deal with him but he has to learn how to deal with himself!! Ugh!! Could this be a medication imbalance? I think my sig is up to date but i'll look at it after I post. I'm just so disappointed, things have been going well for months now until just about this past week.
I don't know where to start, so I'll just babble about it. On Saturday he had a friend over (for the first time ever). I could tell he was done playing so we walked to the park and I called friend's mom. In the few minutes it took for her to get there, my son had a major meltdown, screaming, crying, etc. Friend came over and asked if he was ok and my son replied with squinted eyes and a raised fist that he better leave him alone or else. Uh.....what? So the friend says "he does that at school all the time" that of course makes my son more angry and yells about the friend lying, he's hysterical at this point but we have to wait for the friend's mom to get there. We get home, he cries the whole walk home (its less than 5 min) and by the time we get home, he's fine. Completely over the meltdown.
Well, fine, then last night I don't even remember what we were doing, what I said, etc. Last I remember we were joking around. Next thing I know, the fist comes up, the eyes squint up and then he kicks me in the legs. I left the room, then came back turned the tv off and got a bath ready for him. He took a bath, then was told to go to bed (its about 7:00 at this point, bedtime is 8). I told him he could read if he wanted but that he really hurt my feelings and my leg and he needed some time in his room to think about how his actions hurt me. He came out about 7:30 crying about it saying he's so sorry, etc. I think he was really just sorry that he got into trouble, but ok, I gave him a hug and said thank you, now go on back to bed, just because you say you are sorry doesn't mean your punishment is over.
So this morning.....lord help us. he comes in my room at 5:30, I'm up and exercising and tell him he has to go back to bed. He whines and says he's hungry so I say he can go make his breakfast, etc. He eats then I let him lay on the couch and watch TV while I get ready. So, the rest of the morning goes by he's very mouthy but he woke up at 5:30....somewhat expected. So I remind him that being sassy and talking back will make him lose his TV time. I'm walking to the garage at this point to get stuff in the car and ready to go, and he runs up behind me, blocks me in the garage and yells I"M GOING TO KILL YOU!!!!
At this point I don't know what to say so I say "get in the car, now" (its time for school). On the way I tell him that it is never ok to tell someone that and it is never ok to raise his fists at someone and that when he's older he will go to jail for those things. Of course, this upsets him because "you are going to put me in jail" I tell him that I am not putting him anywhere but if he uses his words and fists like that, he will put himself in jail. So great start to our morning.
I need advice, I don't even know what kind. I need something though. I don't know what to do with him, I don't know how to react to these things, I think he needs more counseling than he's getting at school probably, but all the play therapists we've seen are a joke, not that I think I don't need help dealing with-him too but that's what almost all of them want to talk about. That is NOT the issue. This child needs help, yes I need to learn to deal with him but he has to learn how to deal with himself!! Ugh!! Could this be a medication imbalance? I think my sig is up to date but i'll look at it after I post. I'm just so disappointed, things have been going well for months now until just about this past week.