I'm not probably the best person to be dishing out the advice on this one so I thought maybe I'd ask the general public here..... I have a friend who has two daughters. One is (she suspects) high functioning Autistic /Aspie. That's not what SHE refers to her as trust me - it's my daughter the B. The other daughter is older, kinder, thoughtful - and from what I gather a nice woman. Both have lives of their own, yet the B one - lives close and NEVER comes to visit, or involve herself unless there is a need-to-get scenario. Then it really is a self-serving svck up situation that I have witnessed and it's very sad. She's told people lies about her Mom to garner sympathy for herself, turned her children away from their own Grandparents. The other daughter and her children send cards, letters and offer to visit - I mean to me it reminds me of that childrens magazine HIghlights - GOofus and Gallant lol. Had it not been that I've known this lady personally and seen the B daughter in action? I wouldn't believe some of the stories - but sadly they're true. I asked her if she was aware of Aspergers - she's doing a little reading now, but she's really hurt, and bitter. How .......do I try to help her see that the daughter COULD be an Aspie after 50 some years - and even the grandchildren in their 20's ----could be products of their Mother's undoing? I would love for her to understand that, but wow - this woman takes the cake, the table and the cloth -----with SOME sense of entitlement and then stands there with an AS IF look on her face and then? Blames YOU for being an idiot and getting upset 'all the time' over stupid things - again. UGH. Not sure what to tell her or how to direct them - the older sister basically has written the entire sister and her children off - the x husband hasn't been seen in 18 years......and I can't say I blame him. Any thoughts? From any of you who have children or siblings who are "normal" and "aspie" or autistic spectrum? .........and dealt with this?