Sorry it is a bit long.
Background: My son has a diagnosis of adhd/mood disorder. We have been
through soooo much. I am sure I do not need to spell it out
(doctors, medications. medications. medications., hospital, therapy, etc). Knock on Wood
he has been stable and doing well for a number of months. We started
him at one of the local private schools for special needs and so far
so good (again knock on wood, salt over the shoulder, fingers
crossed).
Well I met a mom of one of the boys in my son's class. We hit it off
right away (she does not know my son's diagnosis). Her son does not carry a
diagnosis of mood, BiPolar (BP) or adhd. He is a sweet boy with non-verbal learning
disabilities. Our boys also hit it off. Yeah my son seems typical
and has a friend.
Here is the reason to go back into isolation.
There are 2 boys in the class exhibiting very challenging
emotional/behavioral problems. My new friend's son is very bothered
by this and so is she.
1. Last week she repeatedly talked to me about a boy "H" that is a
real problem. In fact he was suspended for kicking and is always in
the principal's office. She had enough and wrote a letter to the
school saying she was assured that her son would not be with
children with emotional/behavioral problems.
*Not going tell her about my son's true diagnosis.
2. As for the second boy, "B", he had a major meltdown and she saw
it and heard of this occurring other times. She said to me "that
child is a real "mental patient". I looked her stunned and she
said, "I am not just saying it. He is diagnosed as a mental patient."
*Okay, definately not sharing my son's diagnosis.
3. She was telling me about an experience last year when her son was
in public school regarding a child always out of control. Her
statement was, "And the end result, the kid was diagnosed bipolar!
Can you imagine a kid diagnosed with bipolar?! I am not paying
16,000 for my son to be with that kind of kid."
*Well, back into isolation I go.
Some people will think poorly of this mom. Other than this topic we
get along great. I don't blame her at all for her thinking.It is the
reality of society.
My child is not one of the 2 acting out. She has been with my son a few times and really is encouraging her son to be with my son.
I feel I owe each of you an apology for not having the courage to
look her straight in the eyes and say, "My child is one of those
children. He is a "mental patient" doing better."
I don't have the energy to try to change the world one person at a
time. So I will go back into my cave, and if she comes to my car
this afternoon at carpool I will probably just say, "So you think it
will rain today?"
If you made it all the way to the end of this little pity party, THANK
YOU,
Bugsy's mom
Background: My son has a diagnosis of adhd/mood disorder. We have been
through soooo much. I am sure I do not need to spell it out
(doctors, medications. medications. medications., hospital, therapy, etc). Knock on Wood
he has been stable and doing well for a number of months. We started
him at one of the local private schools for special needs and so far
so good (again knock on wood, salt over the shoulder, fingers
crossed).
Well I met a mom of one of the boys in my son's class. We hit it off
right away (she does not know my son's diagnosis). Her son does not carry a
diagnosis of mood, BiPolar (BP) or adhd. He is a sweet boy with non-verbal learning
disabilities. Our boys also hit it off. Yeah my son seems typical
and has a friend.
Here is the reason to go back into isolation.
There are 2 boys in the class exhibiting very challenging
emotional/behavioral problems. My new friend's son is very bothered
by this and so is she.
1. Last week she repeatedly talked to me about a boy "H" that is a
real problem. In fact he was suspended for kicking and is always in
the principal's office. She had enough and wrote a letter to the
school saying she was assured that her son would not be with
children with emotional/behavioral problems.
*Not going tell her about my son's true diagnosis.
2. As for the second boy, "B", he had a major meltdown and she saw
it and heard of this occurring other times. She said to me "that
child is a real "mental patient". I looked her stunned and she
said, "I am not just saying it. He is diagnosed as a mental patient."
*Okay, definately not sharing my son's diagnosis.
3. She was telling me about an experience last year when her son was
in public school regarding a child always out of control. Her
statement was, "And the end result, the kid was diagnosed bipolar!
Can you imagine a kid diagnosed with bipolar?! I am not paying
16,000 for my son to be with that kind of kid."
*Well, back into isolation I go.
Some people will think poorly of this mom. Other than this topic we
get along great. I don't blame her at all for her thinking.It is the
reality of society.
My child is not one of the 2 acting out. She has been with my son a few times and really is encouraging her son to be with my son.
I feel I owe each of you an apology for not having the courage to
look her straight in the eyes and say, "My child is one of those
children. He is a "mental patient" doing better."
I don't have the energy to try to change the world one person at a
time. So I will go back into my cave, and if she comes to my car
this afternoon at carpool I will probably just say, "So you think it
will rain today?"
If you made it all the way to the end of this little pity party, THANK
YOU,
Bugsy's mom
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