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I have been working really hard to not be angry. Be supportive, let difficult child know I appreciate his hard work at school.
As I mentioned I have a three week stretch of working so with the nights, I am usually in bed when difficult child gets home and he is in bed when I get up. Been checking school online. After first day of quarter he had A+ in all classes. Second day A+...Yesterday - I have class these two days so I am able to give him a ride to school yesterday and today. He didn't bring his folder home on Wednesday night. (accordian style with all subjects for less to lose). I asked him why. He said he finished his homework at school. Then he tells me he is sick needs to stay home. I check him out and said he seems fine, get up and try to go.
He then asks if he can just stay home cause he is so tired. I replied, "seems to me that maybe someone didn't do their homework". He said no, I did it. Got ready and went to school.
Checked online school before I left work. Math - worksheet=incomplete. Homework = 0
He called me after school and I asked if he brought his math home. He said, "are you mad". I only replied...disappointed. And that he lied.
He then said that the kids on the bus took his folder away. When he tried to get it back the accordian part ripped and his papers went all over. Being only the second day of the quarter he didn't need those papers. So after school he went and got duplicates from the math teacher. He asked if he could just have regular folders since the kids make fun of him with the other. OK. we can try that. But now he has double the homework. What I DIDN'T want to happen. Wish he would of said that the previous night. He still could of done his homework he knew what it was.
No yelling. No angry words. Thought it went well.
Backup to weekend. I gave easy child my debit card and asked him to get gas for me. Sunday when I got home from work I asked for my card back. He said he put it on the shelf next to the couch. husband and difficult child all said they saw it there. We all start looking. difficult child disappears into his room. comes out and is looking Under the couch. OH - HERE it is!!!
I have my suspicions (sp???) since difficult child has been known to take my card in the past and purchase things for xbox and this STUPID online game that I absolutely HATE. He is addicted to this stupid RUNESCAPE game.
Last run in with this was in December. THEN I questioned why he had my card and he admitted what he did and reversed the charges. I did check my bank and he DID reverse it.
I got my merit increase at work, plus a ton of overtime last week. So last night I am sitting with husband and said I am going to logon to the bank and see what my pay was (payday). OMG - we have had some unexpected things come up so we were running real low. Overdraft charges...two of them. I start looking. SIX - charges. FOUR to RUNESCAPE. TWO for PAYPAL. OMG, I almost fell off my chair. It was done on Monday and Tuesday. I had my card then so he must of had my number. husband gets him and drills him. I do not have a PAYPAL account. Looks like I do now!!
difficult child said he put the number in his phone. He deleted it. OMG. This caused two overdraft charges. I told difficult child this. He says he is sorry and asks what he can do. He has DONE this MANY times in the past. He KNOW it is wrong. he KNOWS he is STEALING.
Logon this morning. There is ANOTHER charge for RUNESCAPE. Date says 4/3. He must of done it after school, or later in the evening and it went through after midnight. I am hoping. Total for this stupid game $112.65
I am going to have husband take him to the bank when he gets home from work today. He is going to withdraw that amount from HIS account. Not that he cares. He probably will just blow this off.
husband asked me to get another card. However - I have a lot of bills tied to this debit card that I pay online. If I forget to change one of those the bill will be denied and I will have a late payment. It is just a really big hastle.
Do I trust he doesn't do it again? When he has done it so many times in the past? I am just sick.
I felt myself getting really angry last night so I just told him I do not want to see him right now and went to my room. To bed at 7pm. I am hoping I can hold it together this morning when I give him a ride to school. I really hate fighting. I hate losing my temper. I hate saying things I should not say.
husband laid into him without yelling which was good.
Sometime when I have time (have to get ready for class) I will let you know how he is with the depersonalization/derealization, Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) , depression that has been running wild with him.
Thanks for listening. I am so glad I have a place to talk about difficult child without people telling me how bad he is.
As I mentioned I have a three week stretch of working so with the nights, I am usually in bed when difficult child gets home and he is in bed when I get up. Been checking school online. After first day of quarter he had A+ in all classes. Second day A+...Yesterday - I have class these two days so I am able to give him a ride to school yesterday and today. He didn't bring his folder home on Wednesday night. (accordian style with all subjects for less to lose). I asked him why. He said he finished his homework at school. Then he tells me he is sick needs to stay home. I check him out and said he seems fine, get up and try to go.
He then asks if he can just stay home cause he is so tired. I replied, "seems to me that maybe someone didn't do their homework". He said no, I did it. Got ready and went to school.
Checked online school before I left work. Math - worksheet=incomplete. Homework = 0
He called me after school and I asked if he brought his math home. He said, "are you mad". I only replied...disappointed. And that he lied.
He then said that the kids on the bus took his folder away. When he tried to get it back the accordian part ripped and his papers went all over. Being only the second day of the quarter he didn't need those papers. So after school he went and got duplicates from the math teacher. He asked if he could just have regular folders since the kids make fun of him with the other. OK. we can try that. But now he has double the homework. What I DIDN'T want to happen. Wish he would of said that the previous night. He still could of done his homework he knew what it was.
No yelling. No angry words. Thought it went well.
Backup to weekend. I gave easy child my debit card and asked him to get gas for me. Sunday when I got home from work I asked for my card back. He said he put it on the shelf next to the couch. husband and difficult child all said they saw it there. We all start looking. difficult child disappears into his room. comes out and is looking Under the couch. OH - HERE it is!!!
I have my suspicions (sp???) since difficult child has been known to take my card in the past and purchase things for xbox and this STUPID online game that I absolutely HATE. He is addicted to this stupid RUNESCAPE game.
Last run in with this was in December. THEN I questioned why he had my card and he admitted what he did and reversed the charges. I did check my bank and he DID reverse it.
I got my merit increase at work, plus a ton of overtime last week. So last night I am sitting with husband and said I am going to logon to the bank and see what my pay was (payday). OMG - we have had some unexpected things come up so we were running real low. Overdraft charges...two of them. I start looking. SIX - charges. FOUR to RUNESCAPE. TWO for PAYPAL. OMG, I almost fell off my chair. It was done on Monday and Tuesday. I had my card then so he must of had my number. husband gets him and drills him. I do not have a PAYPAL account. Looks like I do now!!
difficult child said he put the number in his phone. He deleted it. OMG. This caused two overdraft charges. I told difficult child this. He says he is sorry and asks what he can do. He has DONE this MANY times in the past. He KNOW it is wrong. he KNOWS he is STEALING.
Logon this morning. There is ANOTHER charge for RUNESCAPE. Date says 4/3. He must of done it after school, or later in the evening and it went through after midnight. I am hoping. Total for this stupid game $112.65
I am going to have husband take him to the bank when he gets home from work today. He is going to withdraw that amount from HIS account. Not that he cares. He probably will just blow this off.
husband asked me to get another card. However - I have a lot of bills tied to this debit card that I pay online. If I forget to change one of those the bill will be denied and I will have a late payment. It is just a really big hastle.
Do I trust he doesn't do it again? When he has done it so many times in the past? I am just sick.
I felt myself getting really angry last night so I just told him I do not want to see him right now and went to my room. To bed at 7pm. I am hoping I can hold it together this morning when I give him a ride to school. I really hate fighting. I hate losing my temper. I hate saying things I should not say.
husband laid into him without yelling which was good.
Sometime when I have time (have to get ready for class) I will let you know how he is with the depersonalization/derealization, Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) , depression that has been running wild with him.
Thanks for listening. I am so glad I have a place to talk about difficult child without people telling me how bad he is.