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toughlovin
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Hi all,
I got a call from difficult child last night and all I can say is I am worried.... I almost wish he hadn't called just because it put me in turmoil again with worry. I am glad he did call in that I am glad he reached out to us. The good news is he sounds calm, not angry but has "concerns" which he is writing to us about. Sounds like he doesnt feel he really fits into the program, he is the youngest man by far and the other men are dealing with more serious problems or in their marriages etc. I did talk to him about the importance of not acting out, or just leaving but talking to his therapist etc. I kind of wondered if this might be the case but knew this program has a good reputation. And my feeling is at this point is there is no "perfect" program, the truth is difficult child has to be willing to do the work. One thing he doesnt like is there is a buddy systme so someone is with him all the time (ha that might be a good thing). He also said he wont be ablel to call again for two weeks... they are allowed one phone call in their first 24 hours.... so I am glad he called us instead of someone else!!!
So I am going to sit down and write him a letter, trying to be encouraging and positive, but also saying this is a chance for him to work things out constructively and really if this program has helped men with much worse problems it should be able to help him.
And I know he got there at the beginning of the weekend.... and so he is not really into it yet... and he has always had a hard time in new situations. Although some treatment programs he has liked in the beginning.
I am hanging in there.... glad I got at least one good nights sleep.
TL
I got a call from difficult child last night and all I can say is I am worried.... I almost wish he hadn't called just because it put me in turmoil again with worry. I am glad he did call in that I am glad he reached out to us. The good news is he sounds calm, not angry but has "concerns" which he is writing to us about. Sounds like he doesnt feel he really fits into the program, he is the youngest man by far and the other men are dealing with more serious problems or in their marriages etc. I did talk to him about the importance of not acting out, or just leaving but talking to his therapist etc. I kind of wondered if this might be the case but knew this program has a good reputation. And my feeling is at this point is there is no "perfect" program, the truth is difficult child has to be willing to do the work. One thing he doesnt like is there is a buddy systme so someone is with him all the time (ha that might be a good thing). He also said he wont be ablel to call again for two weeks... they are allowed one phone call in their first 24 hours.... so I am glad he called us instead of someone else!!!
So I am going to sit down and write him a letter, trying to be encouraging and positive, but also saying this is a chance for him to work things out constructively and really if this program has helped men with much worse problems it should be able to help him.
And I know he got there at the beginning of the weekend.... and so he is not really into it yet... and he has always had a hard time in new situations. Although some treatment programs he has liked in the beginning.
I am hanging in there.... glad I got at least one good nights sleep.
TL