I've taken off difficult child's diagnosis from my signature and want to know what you all would diagnosis. I am fully aware you are not docs and not "qualified" to make a diagnosis. But, you all have lived it or know a bit about it. I'm going to give the lengthy, cliff notes. What does it sound like to you? Pregnancy: Left bio father at 3 mos pregnant because he had been physically abusive in the past and looked like it might be going that way again. Bio father and I were living with his relatives at time but had met in another state. Lived with them about 4 months at that time, during which I was finding out he had lied about almost every detail of his life. Stupid, insignificant stuff to lie about too. He went to work, I packed a bag and went to my home state. Last I saw of him. Rest of preg went fine. No problems. Full term. Perfect delivery, except I pop 'em out too fast to get medications! Ouch... Early Childhood: Maybe a little fussy. Being a single mom with no child support and nothing to my name, I had several babysitters until about 1 1/2 yrs. They may or may not have been the best people. Don't know. At about 2 he was almost kicked out of daycare for biting. Everyone said bite him back, so I did. Didn't work. Daycare owner had compassion for me and did not kick him out. Also moved about 6 times before he was 3. husband and I met when difficult child was 7 months and have been together ever since. Married when difficult child was 2 I think. At around 3 yrs we noticed he was a little quirky. In the morning we would often be woke up by difficult child standing next to the bed, sippy cup in hand, yelling,"MILK!!". He would also wake up early and raid the kitchen. We installed doors on the kitchen and put a kid lock, it was that much of an issue. Didn't stop him. One morning he climbed through the bar window, got a whole box of chocolates, unwrapped them all, and lined them up like a train in the living room floor. At 4 yrs I put him in pre-k. I was figuring some adhd or something. Teacher thought it was a maybe. Kindergarten: 3rd day of kinder in the principal's office. The next week suspended for hitting. One disaster after another. He was suspended at least 30 times, and countless writeups. Mostly hitting staff members, hit kids a few times, and hit a volunteer mom once too. Tried different teachers. By october seeing a psychiatrist. Received a diagnosis and medications. No change. Moved to a resource class and towards end of year, into an adaptive behavior class on another campus. His behavior was just as bad at home too. 1st grade: New Adap Behav class on new campus. Teacher was horrible. Suspensions. Leaving the building. Miserable all around. I think we were also doing play therapy by this time also. Got tired of all the suspensions and being in trouble all the time. I just withdrew him and was going to homeschool. There was still all the physical aggression at home too. By april or may my regular doctor said I needed to put him back in school, and soon, because it was taking a visible, physical toll on me. I was looking rough... Put him back in school. 2nd/1st grade: 3rd Adap Behav class and campus. GREAT teacher. We had him reclassified as 1st grade again. Said it was because he missed most of first, but was really because he had been barely 5 when started originally and thought maybe he needed another year. Things weren't any better. We had already switched medications a few times too. Physical aggression was getting worse. Bit Asst Principal on arm and broke the skin. As well as lots of other things. Put him psychiatric hospital. Most stay about 3-5 days, he stayed 19. Even up to the day we picked him up they were still shooting him up with thorazine to control him. Went back two more times that year or the next. 3 total visits to the psychiatric hospital. All visits were because of out of control violent behavior at home. Close to end of year he was placed at a therapuetic campus in our school dist. More medications, no change. 3rd grade: Still at therapuetic school. Made some improvements at school and earned a chance to go back to a regular campus into an AB class. Didn't last. Distict police called more than once and eventually went back to therap school. More medications. More violence at home. 3-4 broken windows at home. Threw brick through neighbors window. Gave a cop a black eye. Hitting, kicking, pinching, biting. Threw a golfball at me, hit my brow leaving me with a cut and later a black eye. He weighs about 20 pounds less than me at this time and is 900-1200 mg seroquel daily. 4th grade: Same type of stuff, but has now started trying to choke me. Went to juvie in October, November (a really AWFUL episode for me!!) and May all for assault to me. Should have gone in April, but DA rejected charges because he is mentally ill. Sorry so long, almost done. Lieing, stealing, destruction of property, physical aggression, hitting, kicking, biting, hair pulling(literally yanks me around by my hair), pinching, no fear of authority (except the cops at juvie) takes no responsibiltiy, always someone else's fault... From Oct 03 to May 09 he has been on close to 15 different medications with no change in behavior. Just gets bigger and stronger. No academic problems. Too smart for his own good. Asks about a million questions a day, even stuff he knows the answer to or has asked before. No cruelty to animals. No fires. Easily angered or frustrated. Throws controllers when mad about video games...Any questions? So what's his diagnosis? And if you read all this, thank you so much. You are a dedicated person and exactly who I want to hear from. I don't think his diagnosis is accurate, and never did. Thank you again for reading all this.