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13 year old refuses to bathe and 7 year old still cussing us out :(
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 616342" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Of course you're a good mom. </p><p></p><p>More and more to me it sounds like she is a spectrum kid. Lots of them either obsess over cleanliness because they can't stand the feeling of dirt or won't bathe because the feel of water/soap is a sensory problem. Also, they tend not to care what others think of them (reject social norms). It is hard for me even now to get my son to shower. He is twenty and moving out soon. He HAS gotten better with bathing, but, really, often he is quite ripe and I have to cheerfully tease him into showering and I don't know if he is really lathering up or just turning on the water.</p><p></p><p>It's time though for you to start taking care of yourself while you try to puzzle out your children. None of this is your fault and you do deserve "me" time and less chaos. One thing that will probably help is to stop trying to make your home one of a traditional home. Your kids are differently wired so it won't work to try to fit them into a white picket fence. That doesn't mean don't enjoy the holidays. Just have lowered and more open expectations. They will likely always respond differently than regularly wired kids.</p><p></p><p>Heck, Sonic doesn't even enjoy the holidays and he's a good young man. But he thinks the traditions are silly. (He does enjoy the eating part...teehee).</p><p></p><p>Have a relaxing day. I forgot to ask...have you ever read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene? If you live by that, things should be much better, at least for YOU and YOU matter!!!</p><p></p><p>Happy New Year <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Many blessings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 616342, member: 1550"] Of course you're a good mom. More and more to me it sounds like she is a spectrum kid. Lots of them either obsess over cleanliness because they can't stand the feeling of dirt or won't bathe because the feel of water/soap is a sensory problem. Also, they tend not to care what others think of them (reject social norms). It is hard for me even now to get my son to shower. He is twenty and moving out soon. He HAS gotten better with bathing, but, really, often he is quite ripe and I have to cheerfully tease him into showering and I don't know if he is really lathering up or just turning on the water. It's time though for you to start taking care of yourself while you try to puzzle out your children. None of this is your fault and you do deserve "me" time and less chaos. One thing that will probably help is to stop trying to make your home one of a traditional home. Your kids are differently wired so it won't work to try to fit them into a white picket fence. That doesn't mean don't enjoy the holidays. Just have lowered and more open expectations. They will likely always respond differently than regularly wired kids. Heck, Sonic doesn't even enjoy the holidays and he's a good young man. But he thinks the traditions are silly. (He does enjoy the eating part...teehee). Have a relaxing day. I forgot to ask...have you ever read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene? If you live by that, things should be much better, at least for YOU and YOU matter!!! Happy New Year :) Many blessings. [/QUOTE]
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