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13 year old son with repeat behavior issues at school
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 706748" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I want to know why the school is so suddenly aggressive and adversarial to you. To me this signals they have done something wrong and they don't want you to find out, so they want to cow you, to beat you down so you don't ask any questions. I have seen this happen. It happened when I was a child, in how my parents would be treated after my teachers did something and then tehy would go to my parents and act aggressively. I watched teachers and principals do it with my own children. It just makes my spidey senses go off, all my red flag warnings go up as to something wrong has gone on that the school does NOT want you to find out about. Your son may not even know that the school or teachers did anything wrong, so he may not tell you. But SOMETHING is going on, or has already gone on.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, your son needs complete assessments. Many here recommend seeing a neuropsychologist, a psychologist with special training in how the brain works. Make SURE the neuropsychologist knows that aspergers has been suggested (in many ways your son sounds like my oldest, Wiz), and that you want the most complete testing possible. Usually this is ten to fourteen hours of testing over several days, and it gives a lot of information. </p><p></p><p>My son had a very hard time in school. And in a lot of other places. A lot of his teachers in elementary school disliked him because he was smarter than they were. Some even punished him for this. It didn't take even a school year for a teacher doing this to make him go from loving school and learning to hating school, learning and all teachers that didn't prove that they were different. I do find that making sure that my son had plenty of protein before school and at lunch helped a TON. I did this by eliminating cereal and having things like leftover pizza, scrambled eggs, protein bars, etc... for breakfast and for lunches there had to be a certain amount of protein or else there was no dessert. I kept large supplies of protein bars (ALWAYS read the labels as many brands are more sugar than anything else) on hand also. The protein seems to help the boys keep their cool and not get so upset so easily. In talking with other moms of boys like ours, they say that it helps also. </p><p></p><p>I urge you to have your son evaluated by an Occupational Therapist, or O T . The Occupational Therapist (OT) will look for sensory issues. These are common with the things your son has going on. One thing that may help in class is to have fidget items to manipulate during class. They will be a bone of contention with a more traditional teacher. Often teachers want to use them as punishment or reward, but what the items do is let the hands stay busy so the mind can focus. All of my children focus better if their hands are busy doing something. If you cannot get the teacher or principal to allow small squishy balls or whatever, look for novelty pens and pencils. One year I found pencils with little puzzles to manipulate on the top of them. They were amazing for my crew and I ended up buying about 24 of them for our school's Special Education teacher to give out as kids needed them. They were an item that a teacher couldn't take away as a punishment because they were not a toy, so the student had the fidget item for fidgeting even if the regular ed teacher didn't want the child to have the time. (I hope that makes sense). You can find things like this in party supply stores and catalogs if you look. Oriental Trading often has interesting items also if you are looking for fidgets.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 706748, member: 1233"] I want to know why the school is so suddenly aggressive and adversarial to you. To me this signals they have done something wrong and they don't want you to find out, so they want to cow you, to beat you down so you don't ask any questions. I have seen this happen. It happened when I was a child, in how my parents would be treated after my teachers did something and then tehy would go to my parents and act aggressively. I watched teachers and principals do it with my own children. It just makes my spidey senses go off, all my red flag warnings go up as to something wrong has gone on that the school does NOT want you to find out about. Your son may not even know that the school or teachers did anything wrong, so he may not tell you. But SOMETHING is going on, or has already gone on. In the meantime, your son needs complete assessments. Many here recommend seeing a neuropsychologist, a psychologist with special training in how the brain works. Make SURE the neuropsychologist knows that aspergers has been suggested (in many ways your son sounds like my oldest, Wiz), and that you want the most complete testing possible. Usually this is ten to fourteen hours of testing over several days, and it gives a lot of information. My son had a very hard time in school. And in a lot of other places. A lot of his teachers in elementary school disliked him because he was smarter than they were. Some even punished him for this. It didn't take even a school year for a teacher doing this to make him go from loving school and learning to hating school, learning and all teachers that didn't prove that they were different. I do find that making sure that my son had plenty of protein before school and at lunch helped a TON. I did this by eliminating cereal and having things like leftover pizza, scrambled eggs, protein bars, etc... for breakfast and for lunches there had to be a certain amount of protein or else there was no dessert. I kept large supplies of protein bars (ALWAYS read the labels as many brands are more sugar than anything else) on hand also. The protein seems to help the boys keep their cool and not get so upset so easily. In talking with other moms of boys like ours, they say that it helps also. I urge you to have your son evaluated by an Occupational Therapist, or O T . The Occupational Therapist (OT) will look for sensory issues. These are common with the things your son has going on. One thing that may help in class is to have fidget items to manipulate during class. They will be a bone of contention with a more traditional teacher. Often teachers want to use them as punishment or reward, but what the items do is let the hands stay busy so the mind can focus. All of my children focus better if their hands are busy doing something. If you cannot get the teacher or principal to allow small squishy balls or whatever, look for novelty pens and pencils. One year I found pencils with little puzzles to manipulate on the top of them. They were amazing for my crew and I ended up buying about 24 of them for our school's Special Education teacher to give out as kids needed them. They were an item that a teacher couldn't take away as a punishment because they were not a toy, so the student had the fidget item for fidgeting even if the regular ed teacher didn't want the child to have the time. (I hope that makes sense). You can find things like this in party supply stores and catalogs if you look. Oriental Trading often has interesting items also if you are looking for fidgets. [/QUOTE]
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