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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 342971" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sorry you're having such a rough time. I hope the transplant can get set up soon for you.</p><p></p><p>My older son didn't get his Asperger's diagnosis until he was 14. Like you, we always knew there was something more but nobody could tell us what. It was when difficult child 3 was diagnosed as autistic, that we finally got difficult child 1 reassessed too.</p><p></p><p>A lot of the raging etc can be due to these kids processing information differently, yet we try to handle them with the same discipline techniques that seemed to work so well on us when we were kids, and which seem to be fine with our other kids. But these kids - often it's a disaster.</p><p></p><p>But tere are other diiscipline techniques which can really work with these kids, giving you a turnaround in behaviour. Also, the same techniques are fine for the other kids too. In a way, I see it as an evolution in discipline methods because you're actually stepping the kid forward in training (even if you think they can't handle it). It bypasses a couple of stages, often the stages causing problems.</p><p></p><p>For info, read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. There are a lot of recommendations for this on this site, and we don't get paid a cent! (pity)</p><p>To save you from going out and buying every book recommended to you, get it out of the library first.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 used to have a fascination for fire. He had made friends with a tobacconist who gave hi old fancy lighters that were broken. difficult child 1 would repair them then leave them in various places, fully charged. He had tins of lighter fluid in various places, we even found them under the couch and in his bed! I kept confiscating matches, lighters and lighter fluid and locking it all up.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 is my success story no 1. He's still got a way to go, but the positive side of Asperger's is increasingly obvious. He is loyal, loving, meticulous in his work, and scrupulously honest. As a result he engenders loyalty towards him in those people around him.</p><p></p><p>The teen years were not easy. They're not easy with difficult child 3, but we're making much better progress now we're trying a different discipline approach.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 342971, member: 1991"] Sorry you're having such a rough time. I hope the transplant can get set up soon for you. My older son didn't get his Asperger's diagnosis until he was 14. Like you, we always knew there was something more but nobody could tell us what. It was when difficult child 3 was diagnosed as autistic, that we finally got difficult child 1 reassessed too. A lot of the raging etc can be due to these kids processing information differently, yet we try to handle them with the same discipline techniques that seemed to work so well on us when we were kids, and which seem to be fine with our other kids. But these kids - often it's a disaster. But tere are other diiscipline techniques which can really work with these kids, giving you a turnaround in behaviour. Also, the same techniques are fine for the other kids too. In a way, I see it as an evolution in discipline methods because you're actually stepping the kid forward in training (even if you think they can't handle it). It bypasses a couple of stages, often the stages causing problems. For info, read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. There are a lot of recommendations for this on this site, and we don't get paid a cent! (pity) To save you from going out and buying every book recommended to you, get it out of the library first. difficult child 1 used to have a fascination for fire. He had made friends with a tobacconist who gave hi old fancy lighters that were broken. difficult child 1 would repair them then leave them in various places, fully charged. He had tins of lighter fluid in various places, we even found them under the couch and in his bed! I kept confiscating matches, lighters and lighter fluid and locking it all up. difficult child 1 is my success story no 1. He's still got a way to go, but the positive side of Asperger's is increasingly obvious. He is loyal, loving, meticulous in his work, and scrupulously honest. As a result he engenders loyalty towards him in those people around him. The teen years were not easy. They're not easy with difficult child 3, but we're making much better progress now we're trying a different discipline approach. Marg [/QUOTE]
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