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<blockquote data-quote="nomad78" data-source="post: 282900" data-attributes="member: 7620"><p>I am actually the step-dad, his mom and I have been together for 4 years now. </p><p></p><p>We are a family of 5</p><p>Myself, his mom</p><p>12 & 14 yr old boys</p><p>17 yr old girl</p><p></p><p>Currently he has a psychologist, a psychiatrist, and is seeing a forensic psychologist.</p><p></p><p>For the past 7 years he has been through every form of neurological testing his doctors can come up with, and nothing abnormal has been found. He has no diagnosis at all. Usually when he gets in trouble and talks to his doctors, he just makes up some outlandish excuse that throws the doctors off. An example of this was when he molested his mom, he told the forensic psychologist that when it happened he saw some sparkling lights and just went into a trance. After a series neurological tests he admitted that he made it up because he was embarrassed. </p><p></p><p>Last month I called the cops over to talk to him about vandalism. His mom was furious with me. He told me I had no bleeping authority so I thought it would be good for him to meet another kind. He told the police that he kicked all the holes in the walls in self defense, told them a couple of stories and they took me outside to talk to me about child abuse. While the police were talking to me, he was flipping me off through the window. He is very manipulative and a great liar.</p><p></p><p>For YEARS he plotted with his bio father to terrorize his mom. They made up stories about child abuse, drug use, and everything else you could think of to keep her living in fear of losing her kids. Their father abandoned them for 9 months out of the blue and when he came back and started visitations, he filled their heads with all kinds of lies about their mom. </p><p></p><p>Lately their father has been telling them lies about me, which is pretty funny as we have never met. But in regard to general behavior, I will say in this case it is like father like son. </p><p></p><p>As far as safety of the family, I do not sleep when the kid is home. After what he did to his mom, I have been sitting guard all night every night. I have installed heavy duty locks on the girls room, and his younger brother sleeps 2 feet from his mom in our room with the door locked. </p><p></p><p>Over the past 6 months there has been one really disgusting thing that nobody can figure out. He has been going #2 in his pants and then putting it in the washing machine with everyones clothing. When we ask him why he would do that, he tells us, because hes just a kid and that is to gross for him to take care of himself. He refuses to adhere to any sanitary bathroom habits, and getting him to take a shower takes several days of horrible tantrums. Not that he is in a constant rage, he will laugh and make jokes and play, watch movies, but when we say shower, he tells us... do you really want to deal with a tantrum from me tonight?</p><p></p><p>If he calmly threatens to have a tantrum, and then follows through with it to the letter, is that really a mental problem? It seems to calculated to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nomad78, post: 282900, member: 7620"] I am actually the step-dad, his mom and I have been together for 4 years now. We are a family of 5 Myself, his mom 12 & 14 yr old boys 17 yr old girl Currently he has a psychologist, a psychiatrist, and is seeing a forensic psychologist. For the past 7 years he has been through every form of neurological testing his doctors can come up with, and nothing abnormal has been found. He has no diagnosis at all. Usually when he gets in trouble and talks to his doctors, he just makes up some outlandish excuse that throws the doctors off. An example of this was when he molested his mom, he told the forensic psychologist that when it happened he saw some sparkling lights and just went into a trance. After a series neurological tests he admitted that he made it up because he was embarrassed. Last month I called the cops over to talk to him about vandalism. His mom was furious with me. He told me I had no bleeping authority so I thought it would be good for him to meet another kind. He told the police that he kicked all the holes in the walls in self defense, told them a couple of stories and they took me outside to talk to me about child abuse. While the police were talking to me, he was flipping me off through the window. He is very manipulative and a great liar. For YEARS he plotted with his bio father to terrorize his mom. They made up stories about child abuse, drug use, and everything else you could think of to keep her living in fear of losing her kids. Their father abandoned them for 9 months out of the blue and when he came back and started visitations, he filled their heads with all kinds of lies about their mom. Lately their father has been telling them lies about me, which is pretty funny as we have never met. But in regard to general behavior, I will say in this case it is like father like son. As far as safety of the family, I do not sleep when the kid is home. After what he did to his mom, I have been sitting guard all night every night. I have installed heavy duty locks on the girls room, and his younger brother sleeps 2 feet from his mom in our room with the door locked. Over the past 6 months there has been one really disgusting thing that nobody can figure out. He has been going #2 in his pants and then putting it in the washing machine with everyones clothing. When we ask him why he would do that, he tells us, because hes just a kid and that is to gross for him to take care of himself. He refuses to adhere to any sanitary bathroom habits, and getting him to take a shower takes several days of horrible tantrums. Not that he is in a constant rage, he will laugh and make jokes and play, watch movies, but when we say shower, he tells us... do you really want to deal with a tantrum from me tonight? If he calmly threatens to have a tantrum, and then follows through with it to the letter, is that really a mental problem? It seems to calculated to me. [/QUOTE]
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