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14 year old step-son is scaring me
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<blockquote data-quote="nomad78" data-source="post: 283214" data-attributes="member: 7620"><p>We did not report the molestation of his mom, instead we called one of his better therapists and she sent him to a forensic psychologist. The FP suggested that we do not report it to the police. </p><p></p><p>Tonight we went to his middle school graduation, afterward we saw his report card. He has failed two classes with strait F grades on all marking periods and they still passed him. He has never been held back before. His resource teacher started refusing to deal with him near the beginning of the school year and his IEP requires certain tasks of the resource teacher. I am tempted to believe they passed him just to get him out of the school.</p><p></p><p>TerryJ2, it makes me hopeful hearing your story and how your child has learned to control the anger issues. Unfortunately, it does not matter how we approach ours, we can be sweet and calm while he kicks holes in the walls. He refuses to follow his doctors orders of keeping his journal, and the mood wheel. We were recently told by one of his therapists that he needs a higher level of care, and she dropped him as a patient.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I think there is nothing wrong with him at all. Now and then, he is the perfect child, usually if his brother is in trouble for something. I do think all of the lies and games his bio father has played with him have really given him a skewed perception of reality and authority. At press, his bio father is refusing to play any games with him, and has been skipping 90% of his visitations. Maybe the recent rash of tantrums and over the top behavior is coming from the frustration of not having his dad to play games with anymore. </p><p></p><p>I know that for quite some time, his bio father would reward him during visitations when his behavior at home was terrible. His younger brother reported to us many times concerning the rewards. In several cases, the 12 year old was punished by his bio father for sticking up for his mom when she was being slandered at the bio fathers house. </p><p></p><p>In the past few months, the 12 year old has started screaming at me (not his mother), and having slightly violent tantrums of his own. After a few sessions with a therapist, the 12 year old stated that he acts out that way because his brother gets away with it, so why shouldn't he.</p><p></p><p>I appreciate the input all of you have given. I will try to convince his mother that we need to start looking for yet another set of new doctors. He has had all of the tests that have been mentioned on this thread, and no one has any diagnosis. </p><p></p><p>Summer break starts tomorrow. I will be working from home so that a parent is with him during the day. There is no way to describe the dread of knowing I will be home with him everyday... all day... all summer... it should be interesting to say the least.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nomad78, post: 283214, member: 7620"] We did not report the molestation of his mom, instead we called one of his better therapists and she sent him to a forensic psychologist. The FP suggested that we do not report it to the police. Tonight we went to his middle school graduation, afterward we saw his report card. He has failed two classes with strait F grades on all marking periods and they still passed him. He has never been held back before. His resource teacher started refusing to deal with him near the beginning of the school year and his IEP requires certain tasks of the resource teacher. I am tempted to believe they passed him just to get him out of the school. TerryJ2, it makes me hopeful hearing your story and how your child has learned to control the anger issues. Unfortunately, it does not matter how we approach ours, we can be sweet and calm while he kicks holes in the walls. He refuses to follow his doctors orders of keeping his journal, and the mood wheel. We were recently told by one of his therapists that he needs a higher level of care, and she dropped him as a patient. Sometimes I think there is nothing wrong with him at all. Now and then, he is the perfect child, usually if his brother is in trouble for something. I do think all of the lies and games his bio father has played with him have really given him a skewed perception of reality and authority. At press, his bio father is refusing to play any games with him, and has been skipping 90% of his visitations. Maybe the recent rash of tantrums and over the top behavior is coming from the frustration of not having his dad to play games with anymore. I know that for quite some time, his bio father would reward him during visitations when his behavior at home was terrible. His younger brother reported to us many times concerning the rewards. In several cases, the 12 year old was punished by his bio father for sticking up for his mom when she was being slandered at the bio fathers house. In the past few months, the 12 year old has started screaming at me (not his mother), and having slightly violent tantrums of his own. After a few sessions with a therapist, the 12 year old stated that he acts out that way because his brother gets away with it, so why shouldn't he. I appreciate the input all of you have given. I will try to convince his mother that we need to start looking for yet another set of new doctors. He has had all of the tests that have been mentioned on this thread, and no one has any diagnosis. Summer break starts tomorrow. I will be working from home so that a parent is with him during the day. There is no way to describe the dread of knowing I will be home with him everyday... all day... all summer... it should be interesting to say the least. [/QUOTE]
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