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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 283253" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Well said Marg.</p><p> </p><p>Nomad, I also have a concern :</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Obviously bio dad is disturbed on some level to even consider teaching his boys to act this way toward their mother. But I have got to ask, is there any chance there is abuse/sexual abuse going on between bio dad and difficult child?</p><p> </p><p>Having been a victim myself, and having a nephew that was a victim......the more detailed accounts of his behavior really make me wonder if this is the case. Bio dad appears to be not only manipulative but a control freak who gets some sort of warped kick out of making his ex wife's life a living hades. It takes <strong>alot</strong> to get a child to turn on their mother, even if they're very close to their father. The normal response would be what you see in the younger son. Rewarding such behavior is usually not enough.</p><p> </p><p>Also many people don't relize that a child of this age suddenly taking to defacating in their underwear ect is a major red flag for sexual abuse. Of course it doesn't have to be bio dad.....it could be someone else difficult child comes into contact with. It would also explain the anger, rages, the cold calculated behavior, and the molesting of his mother. (lashing out at you and her for not protecting him)</p><p> </p><p>Other than the whole bio dad part, you could've been talking about my nephew at age 12. My sister didn't catch it. Tdocs and psychiatrists didn't catch it. It wasn't until later she found out the hades she lived thru from age 12-16 when he went to prison for the first time that from 12-14 he'd be molested by the boy he hung around with who was several years older.</p><p> </p><p>Not saying this is what is going on. Just saying that it might be something you and his mom might want to think about. And I felt strongly enough to put it out for you to think about.</p><p> </p><p>Regardless. difficult child is a danger to the family. His docs are obviously not helping him. And I'm sorry but I'd have little respect for a doctor who says not to report something as serious as molestation. This child needs help. FAST.</p><p> </p><p>I'm so sorry you're having to go thru this.</p><p> </p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 283253, member: 84"] Well said Marg. Nomad, I also have a concern : Obviously bio dad is disturbed on some level to even consider teaching his boys to act this way toward their mother. But I have got to ask, is there any chance there is abuse/sexual abuse going on between bio dad and difficult child? Having been a victim myself, and having a nephew that was a victim......the more detailed accounts of his behavior really make me wonder if this is the case. Bio dad appears to be not only manipulative but a control freak who gets some sort of warped kick out of making his ex wife's life a living hades. It takes [B]alot[/B] to get a child to turn on their mother, even if they're very close to their father. The normal response would be what you see in the younger son. Rewarding such behavior is usually not enough. Also many people don't relize that a child of this age suddenly taking to defacating in their underwear ect is a major red flag for sexual abuse. Of course it doesn't have to be bio dad.....it could be someone else difficult child comes into contact with. It would also explain the anger, rages, the cold calculated behavior, and the molesting of his mother. (lashing out at you and her for not protecting him) Other than the whole bio dad part, you could've been talking about my nephew at age 12. My sister didn't catch it. Tdocs and psychiatrists didn't catch it. It wasn't until later she found out the hades she lived thru from age 12-16 when he went to prison for the first time that from 12-14 he'd be molested by the boy he hung around with who was several years older. Not saying this is what is going on. Just saying that it might be something you and his mom might want to think about. And I felt strongly enough to put it out for you to think about. Regardless. difficult child is a danger to the family. His docs are obviously not helping him. And I'm sorry but I'd have little respect for a doctor who says not to report something as serious as molestation. This child needs help. FAST. I'm so sorry you're having to go thru this. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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