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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 283527" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hey, Marge, hi!!!</p><p>Ok, I'm guessing that the kid isn't telling all to his therapists and I'll bet his mom or dad minimized the molestation. Maybe they weren't told at all. It is beyond my comprehension that any professional would not report it himself. Wacky.</p><p></p><p>I doubt that telling the police would help. Don't know how your police are out in Oz, but ours are possibly going to think that he is coming to them BECAUSE he is doing something wrong...kind of covering for himself in advance. The last people I'd trust with this are the USA's finest. I call them when I need help, but not to get them to understand a budding psychopathic 14 year old who may accuse him of sexual abuse. My guess is they'd immediately jump to the conclusion that he already did it. Don't know for a fact, but certainly wouldn't want to take the chance. We have an aggressive CPS here. If there is a hint of sexual abuse, even before it is proven, the kids are removed and you are sort of considered guilty until proven innocent. It's unfair, but I've seen it happen, especially in foster care. And the non-biological parent is usually the bad guy--steps are notorious for sexually abusing kids--they are the most common abusers (and live in boyfriends). Therefore, even the good guys who are step-parents and live-in boyfirends are looked at with suspicion when an allegation is made. This man is putting himself in a bad situation in my opinion if he goes near the police other than to report the boy's molestation. THAT in my opinion he has a moral obligation to do for the sake of other kids in the community. </p><p></p><p>in my opinion this man is taking on something he can't control. Both bio. Mom and Dad are giving this kid a pass for atrocities. If they both turn on him to save the offender, he hasn't a prayer. Our system is all screwed up. I can't imagine that this man can do anything to save himself if this child (with his father cooking it up) cries sexual abuse. I think he should get out, no matter how much he thinks he can save them. If Mom doesn't want to save her family from this boy, it's a lot like an alcoholic in denial--nothing will change. He can try to help her from afar--maybe get his own place, but stay in communication. If I were him, I'd be outta there. Like yesterday.</p><p>Hope your having a nice day (which is a day ahead of us <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" />).</p><p>Others may disagree with me too...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 283527, member: 1550"] Hey, Marge, hi!!! Ok, I'm guessing that the kid isn't telling all to his therapists and I'll bet his mom or dad minimized the molestation. Maybe they weren't told at all. It is beyond my comprehension that any professional would not report it himself. Wacky. I doubt that telling the police would help. Don't know how your police are out in Oz, but ours are possibly going to think that he is coming to them BECAUSE he is doing something wrong...kind of covering for himself in advance. The last people I'd trust with this are the USA's finest. I call them when I need help, but not to get them to understand a budding psychopathic 14 year old who may accuse him of sexual abuse. My guess is they'd immediately jump to the conclusion that he already did it. Don't know for a fact, but certainly wouldn't want to take the chance. We have an aggressive CPS here. If there is a hint of sexual abuse, even before it is proven, the kids are removed and you are sort of considered guilty until proven innocent. It's unfair, but I've seen it happen, especially in foster care. And the non-biological parent is usually the bad guy--steps are notorious for sexually abusing kids--they are the most common abusers (and live in boyfriends). Therefore, even the good guys who are step-parents and live-in boyfirends are looked at with suspicion when an allegation is made. This man is putting himself in a bad situation in my opinion if he goes near the police other than to report the boy's molestation. THAT in my opinion he has a moral obligation to do for the sake of other kids in the community. in my opinion this man is taking on something he can't control. Both bio. Mom and Dad are giving this kid a pass for atrocities. If they both turn on him to save the offender, he hasn't a prayer. Our system is all screwed up. I can't imagine that this man can do anything to save himself if this child (with his father cooking it up) cries sexual abuse. I think he should get out, no matter how much he thinks he can save them. If Mom doesn't want to save her family from this boy, it's a lot like an alcoholic in denial--nothing will change. He can try to help her from afar--maybe get his own place, but stay in communication. If I were him, I'd be outta there. Like yesterday. Hope your having a nice day (which is a day ahead of us :happy:). Others may disagree with me too... [/QUOTE]
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