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14 yr old son about to be expelled..
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 488750" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi crysbuck, sounds like you are having such a rough ride. Does your son have special needs beyond these issues? Does he have any mental health issues or does he have medical issues like ADHD etc. If you think he is self medicating any underlying issues (and it could be hard to know, middle school is a huge change in ability requirements and he may have not had the skills to get through but if subtle, the school may have missed that)...</p><p></p><p>So, it could be worth doing a few evaluations.... One being a neuropsychologist evaluation which can help see his learning style, if there are challenges that are interfering with his success and which now are resulting in behavior issues. The other of course you probably have had, that is with a psychiatric. or psychiatrist to see if there are any mood disorder types of things going on. </p><p></p><p>At this point, you have tried shorter term placements, If he has no special needs documented, you still have rights if you think he does have them. It is part of the Special Education law when there is a behavior problem that could be related to a special need. If you even think they should look write a letter tonight and state your concern that your child has unmet special needs that are affecting his ability to perform in school You are requesting an evaluation for special education services to determine if he has any problems in the area of academics, emotional and behavioral needs. If he has any reading or communication or motor needs, you can ask for a speech/language evaluation (remember lang. issues can show up as reading problems) and Occupational Therapist (OT) which can look at his ability to motor plan, write (they look at sensory stuff too but you didn't mention anything here about any of these issues, I am just throwing ideas out there). </p><p></p><p>Now, if you are really thinking school is not good for him right now, can he do online school? Can you find a residential treatment (longer term) program for him.</p><p></p><p>If he is drug dependent then it may not be possible to assess the reasons for all of this until he is clean. Since he is 14 you still have some power over him to do a long term therapy setting. He needs to be off the drugs for a long time and then they need to assess any issues that can also contribute to his problems like depression, anxiety, social anxiety, learning problems, whatever. </p><p></p><p>It would be hard to let him go away but it sounds like if you don't do it now, then you might lose the opportunity. Does the district have a treatment program or a sober school?? </p><p></p><p>Sorry if none of this applies, just brain storming here with you. Do you have the book The Explosive Child by Ross Green? I agree for these kids, typical stuff like grounding etc. does not give them the skills they need to do better. They need to be done at times, but it is only a small part of the solution. </p><p></p><p>You have done so much, I really applaud you. He is just hard. Some of our kids are. Makes us have to really think outside of the box. </p><p></p><p>I know there are many here who will be able to guide you more. People who have actually walked in your same shoes. Keep checking in and venting as much as you want. </p><p></p><p>If you decide you want a school evaluation, write it and send it return receipt because the date will start a time clock and also put a hold on them expelling him. They may choose to put him in a temporary placement though while they evaluate because he did one of the few things that allows that by having drug stuff (serious bodily assault, weapons, and drugs are things that even special needs kids can be kicked out for but their educational goals must still be provided for if special needs).</p><p></p><p>by the way !!!??? FOUR boys???? holy heck.... I have ONE and I go nuts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 488750, member: 12886"] Hi crysbuck, sounds like you are having such a rough ride. Does your son have special needs beyond these issues? Does he have any mental health issues or does he have medical issues like ADHD etc. If you think he is self medicating any underlying issues (and it could be hard to know, middle school is a huge change in ability requirements and he may have not had the skills to get through but if subtle, the school may have missed that)... So, it could be worth doing a few evaluations.... One being a neuropsychologist evaluation which can help see his learning style, if there are challenges that are interfering with his success and which now are resulting in behavior issues. The other of course you probably have had, that is with a psychiatric. or psychiatrist to see if there are any mood disorder types of things going on. At this point, you have tried shorter term placements, If he has no special needs documented, you still have rights if you think he does have them. It is part of the Special Education law when there is a behavior problem that could be related to a special need. If you even think they should look write a letter tonight and state your concern that your child has unmet special needs that are affecting his ability to perform in school You are requesting an evaluation for special education services to determine if he has any problems in the area of academics, emotional and behavioral needs. If he has any reading or communication or motor needs, you can ask for a speech/language evaluation (remember lang. issues can show up as reading problems) and Occupational Therapist (OT) which can look at his ability to motor plan, write (they look at sensory stuff too but you didn't mention anything here about any of these issues, I am just throwing ideas out there). Now, if you are really thinking school is not good for him right now, can he do online school? Can you find a residential treatment (longer term) program for him. If he is drug dependent then it may not be possible to assess the reasons for all of this until he is clean. Since he is 14 you still have some power over him to do a long term therapy setting. He needs to be off the drugs for a long time and then they need to assess any issues that can also contribute to his problems like depression, anxiety, social anxiety, learning problems, whatever. It would be hard to let him go away but it sounds like if you don't do it now, then you might lose the opportunity. Does the district have a treatment program or a sober school?? Sorry if none of this applies, just brain storming here with you. Do you have the book The Explosive Child by Ross Green? I agree for these kids, typical stuff like grounding etc. does not give them the skills they need to do better. They need to be done at times, but it is only a small part of the solution. You have done so much, I really applaud you. He is just hard. Some of our kids are. Makes us have to really think outside of the box. I know there are many here who will be able to guide you more. People who have actually walked in your same shoes. Keep checking in and venting as much as you want. If you decide you want a school evaluation, write it and send it return receipt because the date will start a time clock and also put a hold on them expelling him. They may choose to put him in a temporary placement though while they evaluate because he did one of the few things that allows that by having drug stuff (serious bodily assault, weapons, and drugs are things that even special needs kids can be kicked out for but their educational goals must still be provided for if special needs). by the way !!!??? FOUR boys???? holy heck.... I have ONE and I go nuts. [/QUOTE]
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