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16yr old daughter with social anxiety and other issues in court for truancy..
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<blockquote data-quote="Jolosh6" data-source="post: 432798" data-attributes="member: 12037"><p>Thank You, I will definitly try to contact them. Its really a scary situation and one I never could have imagined happening.</p><p></p><p>I have reached out to so many places and it almost feels to me like when I explain whats happened that they are reading more into it or assuming that there must be more to the story rather it is that she has been into legal trouble at some point before or that we are parents that have had DCFS called before because its hard to believe this would happen otherwise and as much as I dont blame anyone for thinking that because I probably would have thought the same thing had anyone told me the state was trying to take their children simply because a kid with the disabilities wasnt going to school especially one thats almost 17 but sadly the fact is what iv told them is the entire story and I am hearing the same thing everyplace I turn which is once its in a court and ordered by the judge its pretty much a lost cause.</p><p></p><p>This is a great place to vent I really needed to just get it all out and I appreciate the feedback from people that seem to understand what im going through....</p><p></p><p>To vent a little more lol... i want to add that the first DCFS worker that came to our house the day aftr I refused to enroll her in their so called jail school came in and told me she had just left my 11yr old sons school and spoke with him (alone) and his teacher and principal. I should explain my son has had emotional problms from the day he was born. He has a weird stomach issue that the doctors think are tied in with the emotional issues. In the mornings if he smells any strong smell good or bad he vomits and with two sisters its hard to not have hairspray or any other girly smell going on and he has probably vomited four out of five mornings before school every week so that causes him to be late alot and iv even told his principal to look at video camera footage of the front of school because he will see me pulling up to drop him off and him leaning out door vomiting tons of times and as a mom its hard to push your kid out the door vomiting and go so many days he would miss and so many other days he vomited in class and i had to get him. The first few yrs of school he vomited so much in school we had to come up with a plan that i would pick him up bring him home to shower or clean up and bring him back. It also dont help everytime he would get sick the nurse and or teacher would get mad at him and say he is faking to go home. It got so bad that he feared vomiting in front of them he would ask to go to restroom and he had learned to keep his hoodie on all day but yank it off before vomiting and even though it was all over his shirt at times he put hoodie over it and acted like nothing happened to avoid humiliation from teacher saying hes faking.</p><p></p><p>I spoke to teachers many times snd told them he has had this problem all his life its real and because if he gets upset it causes him to vomit him being told he is faking is just making him fear doing it so much he ends up doing it and one day he came home like many times before with vomit on his shirt and a hoodie over it and he didnt want me telling the school because he feared them knowing he was doing it at all out of dread of them getting on to him so i took his vomit covered shirt to school and showed teacher, nurse and principal and said if hes doing it to come home then why has he been doing it and hiding it and staying rest of day covered in it?</p><p></p><p>The principal said he would advise yeacher and nurse to say nothing else to him and did no good they still do to this day. He just got sick on his teachers feet last week because she had him standing at her desk lecturing him on importance of being on time after i had told her and had his Dr send paperwork stating he has emotional issues that cause him physical sickness and he cant handle being addressed in any harshway especially in front of class so if he does wrong he ofcourse should be corrected but not in front of everyone and not in a loud or harsh tone because if not he will without fail vomit everywhere. Silly of an issue as it sounds its real but the school wont take it serious id think they are sick of him vomiting all over and would have figured out if they do like they have been told he wouldnt vomit everwhere.</p><p></p><p>The DCFS worker mentioned my son had missed on avg 18 days every year since kindergarden and I said im aware and said if you spoke to his teacher and principal im sure you know why and she said they didnt sayanything other than he has poor attendence. I told her about the emotional/ stomach issue and she rolled eyes and said the school didnt say a word about that or that he has any issues and they told her I hardly even call when he misses and that they try contacting me and I wont return the calls. I assured her thats so not true and said how I have been in contact with them on reg basis and anytime he misses i call to have his missed work sent home with a kid from next door and he does all of his make up work.</p><p></p><p>She said this case is the worst case of ed neglect the county has delt with and I had to laugh and say how so considering my two kids are honor students including my son who has missed alot of days but still manages strait a's and my daughter graduated this year with a 4.0 and my kids are the worst ed neglected inour county? She said yes and said the reason my songets strait a's is only because his teacher takes time away from class to work with him to get his missed work completed and again i laughed because his friend brings work home and i sit and help him and twice there were a few problems we couldnt figure out so i told himtake it and have his teacher help him and he came back home with still not done and said she told himgoogle it if he cant figure it out so my point in telling all of this is these people say whatever they want to say to make you look as bad as they can. </p><p></p><p>I think it is that they have to have so many families that they are involved with and i think the worse they make it sound the better they look for stepping in to "save" the children and sadly the families that need them on their butts are to hard to catch or something because there are so many kids near us that have parents on drugs or that stay drunk and some that just dont supervise their kids and they dont get messed with. A friend of my oldest daughters has a sister that went to the same school as Taylor ( my daughter with disabilities) and at 15 they put her on homebound just because her mom said she was having girl drama and she didnt do the homebound work so they stopped it and she had to go back but her16 th birthday was last December and she left school and never went back. My daughters birthday is in Oct and it was last Oct that she had stopped the homebound and I had agreed to let her work on ged and we were called in Nov and told law changed to 17 and then our nightmare started but the other girl hasnt been in school since Decand still hasnt even heard from school much less juv court and to add to it she also has a brother thats 14 and has missed 43 days this year and hasnt been charged with truancy. </p><p></p><p>The this is worst ed neglect in our county **** isnt sitting well considering i know of many kids that dont go to school and their parents dont care and that have no medication or mental reasons for not going. I think its sad to say but the funding must be way to high for DCFS if they have enough funding to come in to a home like ours and see kids that have a mom that devotes her life just to raising them and a nice home with everything a kid can want for and petition court to remove kids and put into foster care over this then my opinion is either they need to be put on trial themselves and made to do the job their paid to do which is helpkids that really are neglected or abused or if they dont then the funding needs cut because their destroying lives and given alot of funding to do it along with juv court officers who think they know more than a doctor.</p><p></p><p>Im becoming a very bitter person and so are my kids and it breaks my heart. Iv already started hearing the pleading from my daughter this morning to not make her go back to that place Tues and its so hard to have to say iv got no choice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jolosh6, post: 432798, member: 12037"] Thank You, I will definitly try to contact them. Its really a scary situation and one I never could have imagined happening. I have reached out to so many places and it almost feels to me like when I explain whats happened that they are reading more into it or assuming that there must be more to the story rather it is that she has been into legal trouble at some point before or that we are parents that have had DCFS called before because its hard to believe this would happen otherwise and as much as I dont blame anyone for thinking that because I probably would have thought the same thing had anyone told me the state was trying to take their children simply because a kid with the disabilities wasnt going to school especially one thats almost 17 but sadly the fact is what iv told them is the entire story and I am hearing the same thing everyplace I turn which is once its in a court and ordered by the judge its pretty much a lost cause. This is a great place to vent I really needed to just get it all out and I appreciate the feedback from people that seem to understand what im going through.... To vent a little more lol... i want to add that the first DCFS worker that came to our house the day aftr I refused to enroll her in their so called jail school came in and told me she had just left my 11yr old sons school and spoke with him (alone) and his teacher and principal. I should explain my son has had emotional problms from the day he was born. He has a weird stomach issue that the doctors think are tied in with the emotional issues. In the mornings if he smells any strong smell good or bad he vomits and with two sisters its hard to not have hairspray or any other girly smell going on and he has probably vomited four out of five mornings before school every week so that causes him to be late alot and iv even told his principal to look at video camera footage of the front of school because he will see me pulling up to drop him off and him leaning out door vomiting tons of times and as a mom its hard to push your kid out the door vomiting and go so many days he would miss and so many other days he vomited in class and i had to get him. The first few yrs of school he vomited so much in school we had to come up with a plan that i would pick him up bring him home to shower or clean up and bring him back. It also dont help everytime he would get sick the nurse and or teacher would get mad at him and say he is faking to go home. It got so bad that he feared vomiting in front of them he would ask to go to restroom and he had learned to keep his hoodie on all day but yank it off before vomiting and even though it was all over his shirt at times he put hoodie over it and acted like nothing happened to avoid humiliation from teacher saying hes faking. I spoke to teachers many times snd told them he has had this problem all his life its real and because if he gets upset it causes him to vomit him being told he is faking is just making him fear doing it so much he ends up doing it and one day he came home like many times before with vomit on his shirt and a hoodie over it and he didnt want me telling the school because he feared them knowing he was doing it at all out of dread of them getting on to him so i took his vomit covered shirt to school and showed teacher, nurse and principal and said if hes doing it to come home then why has he been doing it and hiding it and staying rest of day covered in it? The principal said he would advise yeacher and nurse to say nothing else to him and did no good they still do to this day. He just got sick on his teachers feet last week because she had him standing at her desk lecturing him on importance of being on time after i had told her and had his Dr send paperwork stating he has emotional issues that cause him physical sickness and he cant handle being addressed in any harshway especially in front of class so if he does wrong he ofcourse should be corrected but not in front of everyone and not in a loud or harsh tone because if not he will without fail vomit everywhere. Silly of an issue as it sounds its real but the school wont take it serious id think they are sick of him vomiting all over and would have figured out if they do like they have been told he wouldnt vomit everwhere. The DCFS worker mentioned my son had missed on avg 18 days every year since kindergarden and I said im aware and said if you spoke to his teacher and principal im sure you know why and she said they didnt sayanything other than he has poor attendence. I told her about the emotional/ stomach issue and she rolled eyes and said the school didnt say a word about that or that he has any issues and they told her I hardly even call when he misses and that they try contacting me and I wont return the calls. I assured her thats so not true and said how I have been in contact with them on reg basis and anytime he misses i call to have his missed work sent home with a kid from next door and he does all of his make up work. She said this case is the worst case of ed neglect the county has delt with and I had to laugh and say how so considering my two kids are honor students including my son who has missed alot of days but still manages strait a's and my daughter graduated this year with a 4.0 and my kids are the worst ed neglected inour county? She said yes and said the reason my songets strait a's is only because his teacher takes time away from class to work with him to get his missed work completed and again i laughed because his friend brings work home and i sit and help him and twice there were a few problems we couldnt figure out so i told himtake it and have his teacher help him and he came back home with still not done and said she told himgoogle it if he cant figure it out so my point in telling all of this is these people say whatever they want to say to make you look as bad as they can. I think it is that they have to have so many families that they are involved with and i think the worse they make it sound the better they look for stepping in to "save" the children and sadly the families that need them on their butts are to hard to catch or something because there are so many kids near us that have parents on drugs or that stay drunk and some that just dont supervise their kids and they dont get messed with. A friend of my oldest daughters has a sister that went to the same school as Taylor ( my daughter with disabilities) and at 15 they put her on homebound just because her mom said she was having girl drama and she didnt do the homebound work so they stopped it and she had to go back but her16 th birthday was last December and she left school and never went back. My daughters birthday is in Oct and it was last Oct that she had stopped the homebound and I had agreed to let her work on ged and we were called in Nov and told law changed to 17 and then our nightmare started but the other girl hasnt been in school since Decand still hasnt even heard from school much less juv court and to add to it she also has a brother thats 14 and has missed 43 days this year and hasnt been charged with truancy. The this is worst ed neglect in our county **** isnt sitting well considering i know of many kids that dont go to school and their parents dont care and that have no medication or mental reasons for not going. I think its sad to say but the funding must be way to high for DCFS if they have enough funding to come in to a home like ours and see kids that have a mom that devotes her life just to raising them and a nice home with everything a kid can want for and petition court to remove kids and put into foster care over this then my opinion is either they need to be put on trial themselves and made to do the job their paid to do which is helpkids that really are neglected or abused or if they dont then the funding needs cut because their destroying lives and given alot of funding to do it along with juv court officers who think they know more than a doctor. Im becoming a very bitter person and so are my kids and it breaks my heart. Iv already started hearing the pleading from my daughter this morning to not make her go back to that place Tues and its so hard to have to say iv got no choice. [/QUOTE]
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